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    Thank you guys for all of your advice and support. I really do appreciate it all! I am also glad to know that maybe this is more common that what I've been thinking. It definitely gets worse when he is stressed or anxious, but it seems like he does it sometimes when he is just sitting there. I asked his teacher this year if she noticed any tics and she said she didn't; however, she did notice that he seems like an anxioius kind of nervous kid. I just feel so bad sometimes because I just want him to relax and be a kid! He worries about adult type things all of the time and I tell him to relax and let us adults worry about that stuff. Ever since he was a toddler he has had little things that he has done that are kind of compulsive. He used to say something was in his eyes and we would basically just touch each of his eyes and everything was okay. Then it changed to the tags in his shirts. I had to cut all of them out and even shirts that didn't have tags, he would say "fix my tag" and if I just touched the shirt there he would be okay. I do think he shows some signs of OCD when it comes to certain things.

    It is hard because you want your kids to be okay all of the time and to just enjoy being a kid but I feel like sometimes he is so uptight. I don't think my husband and I push too much on him, actually sometimes I feel like we don't make him do enough! Maybe it is just him and that is the way he is, but I just want him to RELAX! I am going to schedule an appt. with his pediatrician without him first and see what he thinks. I actually have some video footage of him doing things when he didn't realize we even go it, so maybe I could show him that without having to make him feel awkward. I really do need to get my emotions under control with it though, because I always start out trying to be nice about it and then I just get so frustrated and sometimes I am a bit meaner than I know I should be.

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    Wow, I swore I was alone in this. My daughter blinks constantly. After dealing with this for about 10 years now (it started when she was 4), it is now SLOWLY starting to settle down. I was so tired of people always asking me why she was blinking. I just came up with, "she's just tired". I have been to many specialists with not ONE answer...nothing. I self-diagnosed her with anxiety. I could always tell when things were bad at school. I guess you can go to your doctor. Hopefully they will be of more help to you than they were to me. I even thought of putting her on Xanax or Valium, but never did. Good luck to you and God bless!
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    I was going to mention the same thing with the seizures. My daughter has tempural lobe seizures and they do tend to resemble like a tic thing. She will do some rythmic thing like cluck her tongue, move her hands, head, etc. The doc said its the body's defense mechanism to help the brain handle the seizure (kinda like they are trying to balance the seizure with some behavior.) I would keep an eye on it, talk to the teachers and ask what they see from him. I would not tell them what you are looking for however as people tend to read into things. kwim?

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    I know for me it is great to get advice from other parents. However, it's always best to seek the advice of your doctor. My son has always seemed a little "different" to me, and I feared that he was autistic for a long time. He did not always respond to me when I called his name, and would frequently stare. We had a nanny the first year of his life, and she spent a lot of time with him, sadly more time than I did, so when he began to speak, I chalked it up to not having bonded well with him.

    A few months ago, he started having seizures. After the first one, everyone, including the doctor, said not to worry, that a lot of children have a "one-time only" seizure. A couple of weeks later Dakota, had another seizure, at which point he was hospitalized, an eventually diagnosed with epilepsy. It turns out that the staring episodes are actually a quick seizure.

    Hopefully you have a relationship with a pediatrician who already knows your son. I hope that everything turns out to be okay.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hope2win View Post
    Okay, I have a 9 year old son who has been displaying nervous like tics on and off for the past couple of years. They go away for a while and then come back. They change also. Sometimes it is facial tics, sometimes body movements. At this point I feel like it is affecting his school work and social life. He plays little league baseball and the whole time he is up to bat, his left shoulder is constantly moving up and down and he just can't focus. I ask him about it and then get frustrated when he acts like he isn't doing anything. I just can't take it anymore! It is wearing on me so badly because I don't know if he can help it or not. He has always been overly dramatic about things, so I feel like this is just something else that he is exaggerating. I think I am going to make an appt. with his Dr., but in the mean time just curious if you guys have experienced anything like this??? Thanks!
    This can sometimes be a sign of a magnesium deficiency,a blood test should show if it is.I cant believe poeple would say ignore it,if it's nothing then great but how do you know untill a doc looks into it.
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    ok...I have a question...at his age, have his teachers ever mentioned any of this to you? How about anybody in the family? Do his friends say anything about it? The very best thing to do is talk to his doctor. Of course the dr will not be able to give you any clear deffenitive answers without talking to and observing your son. I just know that the longer you go on hoping the tics might lessen or even go away...you take the chance of other children being ugly to your son. Sometimes kids are very hurtful to one another. I hope you get the answers to you questions. I wish you and your son luck. We always want whats best for our kiddos and we certainly never want them to stand out and feel different from the others. Now go give him a hug and remember that its probably all okay! have a great weekend!

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    Yes, I agree. Do not let him know that you notice. Also, schedule an appt with his Dr. and don't take him. Just go tot talk to the Dr about it.


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    ok, i just now read what the others posted.......and Momto8 is right, too. first, i would try ignoring it totally and see what happens. then, i would try what she was saying. last resort....i would take him to the doctor only because 1. it's not something life threatening that has to be taken care of TODAY and 2. taking him the doctor will make him think something is wrong with him, and will also be a way of feeding into it if it is something that will go away just by ignoring it.




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    hope2win.....i have experienced something similar, but my daughter is 4 so there is the age difference, of course. well, i'll also graduate with an early childhood degree next year from a great school with the most genius professors ever. there's one in particular who has her doctorate that i've become friends with, and i talked to her in depth about it when my daughter was doing it. she would squint her eyes really tight and stutter and do some other tick-like things. i was worried about her socially because of it....like terets syndrome? i think it's called........anyway, my friend and professor told me that most children go through this at some point at different degrees and the BEST thing to do is totally ignore it. i know it's hard because you want to say STOP! slow down....think about what you're doing...think about what you're going to say, blah blah. but she said if you try to correct it or even stare and give attention to it that they will feed off of that and continue it. so, i took her advice and when my daughter would start the squinting and stuttering thing i would just act like it wasn't even happening and she just stopped one day...i never saw her do it again. now, when it comes to him moving his shoulder when he's up to bat.....i don't think that would be anything to worry about too much. you know how some people stick out their tongue when they're writing or something like that? sounds like that's what that is to me.....it's something he does when he's concentrating probably. i didn't mean to write an essay here, but i remember how i felt when i was dealing with this, so i know what you're going through. like you said....he gets frustrated when you say something, so just stop saying anything. leave the room....go do something else....just don't feed into it and see if it gets better. i'm sure it will. let us know what happens.




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    oh yes... my son did this drove me crazy and the more i said the worse it got....I finally decided to leave it alone.. and just watch him he still did it.so i gently non chalauntly probed him when i noticed him doing it..but i did not address it.....I would say hey buddy ya ok? liking school? you know chit chat I foun out school was alike an anxiety thing.....because he was shy or self conscious with everyone but us..With us he never shut up.. but he had school and anxiety issues when he felt put put on the spot or the center of attention tics are like little distractions the mind makes to focus on something else....and he probibly does not know he is doing it.Landon didn't ,he had no clue... it was his eyes blinking and jaw twitching sometimes his fingers moving very fast ....but once i got him talking and focusing on what was making him nervous,(without him knowing I was distracting him from his tics) they slowly went away and he became very forthright in communicating his thoughts and feelings.The ticks left.... it took a while but it also made him deal with things without just getting nervous.And he never even knew he wasn't doing it any more.The tics aren't necessarily the issues it may be something making him nervous...maybe being up to bat, even if he loves ball ,made him feel self conscious because he knew people were watching and he had to perform..I bet during down times and no pressure, easy going days he doesn't have a tic... just watch it ,he may just need to vent instead of supress his feelings who knows...kid are funny like this.I would honestly quit calling it to his attention and maybe just gently lay your hand on his arm or shoulder and stop the tic..........without addressing it.And distract him by talking about so,ething non stressful. It may work.. If not take him to the doctor......especially if it gets worse it could possibly be physical...Just my experience
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    Tics can be a sign of Tourette's Syndrome. You may want to look it up on *****. com or other reliable sources.
    I have no earthly idea if it is Tourette's or not, it is just what came to mind.

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    My brother did this while growing up. The "tics" that changed every year or few months. My mother was talking about it the other day with someone and I can't remember what it is attributited to. Although, I can say that you def need to consult with your pediatrician. Furthermore, my brother didn't noticed a majority of the time that he was doing anything. So take it easy, get it diagnosed (if I spelled that right) and just understand that he may not even be conscious of the tics.

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    Okay, I have a 9 year old son who has been displaying nervous like tics on and off for the past couple of years. They go away for a while and then come back. They change also. Sometimes it is facial tics, sometimes body movements. At this point I feel like it is affecting his school work and social life. He plays little league baseball and the whole time he is up to bat, his left shoulder is constantly moving up and down and he just can't focus. I ask him about it and then get frustrated when he acts like he isn't doing anything. I just can't take it anymore! It is wearing on me so badly because I don't know if he can help it or not. He has always been overly dramatic about things, so I feel like this is just something else that he is exaggerating. I think I am going to make an appt. with his Dr., but in the mean time just curious if you guys have experienced anything like this??? Thanks!












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