Scared to Fail.

**JustKim** · May 31st, 2008, 09:34 PM

I have been overweight for so long, I decided that Phentermine would be my last try before bariatric surgery. I have arrived at this point, because not only am I overweight, but my 11 y/o has a BMI of 34. So it's not even all about me anymore, it's about us. I go to the doctor next week for a script, but my daughter and I started cutting back this week. I've made a promise to help better her life and mine as well. I'm just so afraid to fail. I've read wonderful success stories and hope that I will have one as well.

**jrsh41** · May 31st, 2008, 09:48 PM

Best of luck to you and your daughter Kim!

It's truly about a change in behavior and modifying your life, once and for all. Making healthy eating choices and making a choice to not be sedentary. ...

You can do this ... you have found a support system online and hopefully have one in your offline life ... it is vital!

Feel free to contact me via PM anytime!

steph

**csantana** · May 31st, 2008, 09:59 PM

i know exactly how you feel! i too just started phentermine and if i see no progress i am also thinking of surgery. I wish you the best of luck, you can do it!

**PLUSHH** · June 1st, 2008, 07:02 AM

I WISH YOU THE BEST GIRL

**Cmarie123** · June 1st, 2008, 09:25 AM

I commend you on your effort to not only do this for yourself, but for your daughter. Don't be scared to fail. Every single person here is trying to achieve the same goal. You are not alone. We all have good days and we all have bad days. Just make up your mind that you need to do this, and you will! Just realize that it will take time. We all would like to go to sleep and wake up in the morning with all of the excess weight gone. I have been realistic with myself and realize that it may very well take me a year to lose the 72 lbs I am aiming to lose. I still have 40 lbs to go and I am giving myself until March to do it. As long as you are realistic with your goals and you really work hard, you will see a brand new you! Good luck to you! You CAN DO THIS!

**Raquel** · June 1st, 2008, 10:45 AM

I know the feeling - "Scared to fail" because when it comes to my weight I do this again and again Lose it, gain it. (fail)
So why is this time different - I can't say this time it is - BUT I can say, this is the 1st time I've lost weight since having my children and even though there are serious & shallow reasons I want to lose weight - I think THIS TIME I ACTUALLY WILL keep it off - because I want to be a positive part of their life, from being a roll model. Providing my family w/ healthy foods (I refuse to poison them w/ crap) Being able to run around w/ them on the field when they start those little t-ball things, being able to fit w/ them in rides so they can ride as many as they want. Not being an embarrassement to them at school and other social functions (let alone just running into their peers and moms at Walmart) being ok with throwing them a party and not being self conscious of how I feel or look during THEIR day.

Ok - so you get the point???

I think if your mind SET is also focased on the rewards of our childrens reap - then there is NOTHING that will allow you to fell.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

And not to be a downer - but I've read right here on this board - there have been people that have had the surgeries (which by the way, I'm all for) but still with time went back to their eating habits and have gained it all back after vowing they never would.
Again - Mindset!

**wrkinprogress** · June 4th, 2008, 12:49 AM

You've got us all behind you! You can do this!

**momz01** · June 4th, 2008, 01:21 AM

YOU WILL FIND THIS FORUM VERY MOTIVATING. MOTIVATION WAS MY BIGGEST ISSUE BUT WHEN I REALIZED I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT TO BECOME HEALTHIER BY EATING RIGHT AND EXERCISING IT ALL BECAME CLEAR FOR ME. YOUR CHILD IS YOUR MOTIVATION ,SO KEEP YOUR HEAD UP ,BE STRONG AND YOU GUYS CAN ACTUALLY DO IT TOGETHER. DON'T GIVE UP BECAUSE WE ARE ALL HERE TO BACK YOU UP

WELCOME TO THE PHEN FAM-

**YANIE** · June 4th, 2008, 08:47 AM

You are headed in the right direction...don't think about failure...by the way, if you fall off, dust yourself off and get back on!!!!

We all understand where you are coming from, but remember THIS IS YOUR NETWORK!!! U will be uplifted, supported, and encouraged.... Making slight changes in your diet and walking 30 minutes a day, IS better than nothing at all......REMEMBER, SLOW AND STEADY!

**bribaby1** · June 4th, 2008, 12:51 PM

as one of being overweight for a long time as well.
i comepletely understand what its like.

im still in highschool and have the hardest time in class.
my grades are always poor.

so i know how it is.
scared to fail school.
scared to fail at loosing weight
scared to fail as being a good daughter and positive inspiration to my little sister......

but just look at this!
your on your way!
the medicine really does make a difference.
and your one step closer to reaching your goal weight.

**RickC** · June 4th, 2008, 03:00 PM

The only time you fail is when you quit.

**JustKim** · June 7th, 2008, 12:41 AM

I just now figured how to go back and read replies. This website isn't the most user-friendly or is my age showing? Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I really, really want to do this for myself and my daughter.