Not Tonight Honey......

**Vanett** · March 18th, 2010, 01:01 AM

Have you guys noticed a change in your sex drive? I sure have and it's starting to get really frustrating. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and we used to have sex as much as every day. Our hectic work schedules narrowed it down to every other day, now it's once a week

I decided once I started taking phen to not tell everyone. Past experiences have shown me just how judgemental and critical some folks can be and only 3 people know and that's my mom, my sis and my old roommate. I decided not to tell my live in boyfriend because he has very strong view against medication of all kind. I know this is a symptom of the Phen but I'm not ready to stop taking it just yet. Has anyone experienced this before? My boyfriend thinks I'm not sexually attracted to him anymore with is so far from the truth, I'm just never in the mood anymore. I sure hope this doesnt last much longer.

**luper2b** · March 18th, 2010, 11:34 AM

LORD, DON'T TELL ME THAT , MINE IS ALREADY PRETTY MUCH NOT THERE BEFOR PHEN!!!1

**shoefiend** · March 18th, 2010, 02:51 PM

I am sorry to hear that

For me I have actually had the opposite affect...went from non existent to ready to go all the time. I hope things get better for you in that area...I understand how frustrating it can be to you and your sig other!

**OOlala** · March 18th, 2010, 03:01 PM

Sometimes I think we just get so obsessed when we diet our mind blocks out everything else.... I say throw on some porn and see if that helps... maybe even watch it together

**Kim jennings** · March 18th, 2010, 04:58 PM

Originally Posted by shoefiend

I am sorry to hear that

For me I have actually had the opposite affect...went from non existent to ready to go all the time. I hope things get better for you in that area...I understand how frustrating it can be to you and your sig other!

I am the same way since Phen. Could care less.But as of last week look out lol. Hope it is just a little side effect that will go away soon. I feel ya pain

**mamisc** · March 18th, 2010, 05:05 PM

I just started phen on 3-12 and went from NO drive to Overdrive! Vroom Vroom! I guess it is different for everyone

**FLchick** · March 18th, 2010, 05:33 PM

Originally Posted by mamisc

I just started phen on 3-12 and went from NO drive to Overdrive! Vroom Vroom! I guess it is different for everyone

Me too!

**s_mkalfred** · March 18th, 2010, 06:23 PM

I didn't notice a change in sex drive with phen really, but I guess most people are different. The therapist in me says that although you may not feel in the mood much, if it's important to you and your partner, then do it anyway. I agree with OOlala, try to do things that will spice it up..like porn. A lot of people have an issue with porn. i use to be like that too and since hubby and I have been together I have opened myself up to it and believe me, it helps even the NO WAY IN HELL..NOT TONIGHT...days lol. Even if it is the Phen, it's likely that as you lose weight you will feel sexier which will likely increase the drive also. Hope this helps, good luck

**cecebean** · March 18th, 2010, 07:01 PM

Wow Vanett, I feel for ya! Hopefully you'll come around soon! It has had the opposite effect on me also...I don't mind the little mini-workout

**OOlala** · March 18th, 2010, 08:42 PM

Excellent point! Little mini work out.... shoot... sometimes even a good work out.... sexercise... and they say the more you do it the more drive.... and vice versa

**Mikes_Kitten** · March 18th, 2010, 08:59 PM

What they say about if you are depressed, do your hair and put on make up and your fave clothes and it will give you a pick me up.....I have done the same thing to get in the mood when I was depressed and not feeling it.

Put on something sexy, get all dolled up for your lover, set up a seduction scene and let yourself get caught up in it.

**lizmcgarry** · March 18th, 2010, 11:14 PM

Maybe once you get started you will be ok. If you really don't want to tell him I suggest fake it

I on the other hand don't have to worry. My hubby had a prostatectomy! No prostate=no nookie!

**Vanett** · March 19th, 2010, 01:21 AM

Thanks ladies, I think I've just gotten so obsessed with losing weight and working out that sex has just gotten pushed to the side. Also the fact that I've been working some crazy hours. Most of you stated that phen has helped your drive, when I took it years ago, it had me the same way, I wanted it all the time. LOL!!! I love all of you guys suggestion. I don't mind watching porn, I'm usually watching it with my bf and I know if I did my hair and makeup and wore something sexy that would help. Thanks Ladies!