[Starynight]

What do you do when your family doesn't eat right at all & they always go out to eat at resturants & fast food places & they always want you to have that food & go with them?
It gets on my nerves if anyone knows please answer

[RoxyStar]

i don't know but let me know when you figure it out, i usually just bi tch and moan and then refuse to order food and nibble on his as payback for making me go in the first place...

[cruisegirl1023]

As an adult, I make my mind up to eat how I want... nobody can tell me what to eat. Most restaurants and fast food places have healthy options. Unless someone puts a gun to your head, you can make your own decisions about what you do and don't eat... as can they. Sure, it stinks to see other people gorging on foods you can't have, but that's life... it's a sacrifice but the end of this journey doesn't come without pain and sacrifice.

[Lady Shazerz]

Well, give me an example?? What kind of restaraunt??

I'm sorry to be the reality check b it ch here but I don't think that my family should have to pay because I'm dieting. If they want something, THEY aren't the ones with the weight problem. Why should they miss out on pizza and such? I don't know of ANY restaraunts that don't have salads. And as far as wanting you to eat the food that they eat, when they say "Let's go too blah blah blah" get a huge grin on your face and say "That sounds great but this time you have to eat what I eat!!" And when they say 'We don't want a salad' Say "well I don't want a Burger either so how about we all get what we WANT."

OR, is it more that you can't go to Chuck E Cheese and order a salad? If that's the case then you REALLY can't blame your family for that. You have to learn that they aren't the ones with the diet issue. And believe me...I know it's hard. My family LOVES mexican food. My downfall is chips and salsa but as they say Nothing tastes better than skinny feels. I'm so into that quote it ain't even funny. lol

[Starynight]

I know its so hard seeing them eat what you want to eat but in the end its going to be worth it because your avoiding that stuff that their eating that you shouldnt be eating if that even makes sense lol
If they go to a fast food place or a restuant & ask me what I want & I say a salad they will think im weird & be like why? but oh well.& If I try something that I like to eat like a piece of it I will want more of it so I dont want to even have a piece of it

[cruisegirl1023]

Originally Posted by Starynight

I know its so hard seeing them eat what you want to eat but in the end its going to be worth it because your avoiding that stuff that their eating that you shouldnt be eating if that even makes sense lol
If they go to a fast food place or a restuant & ask me what I want & I say a salad they will think im weird & be like why? but oh well.& If I try something that I like to eat like a piece of it I will want more of it so I dont want to even have a piece of it

That's insane... nobody is going to look at you and think you are weird because you order a salad... if they do, they have issues that nobody here can help them with But keep in mind, most salads that you eat out are loaded with carbs, fat and calories, so you have to really pay attention and know what is good and what isn't good... I'm lucky, my family eats pretty healthy and they always consider me when choosing a place to eat... always. And if they want to go somewhere I don't, I don't have a problem in the world saying "you guys go ahead, I'm going to stay behind this time"... it's just not a big deal to me. I can almost always find something I can eat.

[Lady Shazerz]

Originally Posted by Starynight

I know its so hard seeing them eat what you want to eat but in the end its going to be worth it because your avoiding that stuff that their eating that you shouldnt be eating if that even makes sense lol
If they go to a fast food place or a restuant & ask me what I want & I say a salad they will think im weird & be like why? but oh well.& If I try something that I like to eat like a piece of it I will want more of it so I dont want to even have a piece of it

SO let them think you are weird!! THE WEIRD HOT CHICK!! That'll show em. lol

[Starynight]

Originally Posted by Lady Shazerz

SO let them think you are weird!! THE WEIRD HOT CHICK!! That'll show em. lol

Yea lol thats a good point

[Starynight]

Originally Posted by cruisegirl1023

That's insane... nobody is going to look at you and think you are weird because you order a salad... if they do, they have issues that nobody here can help them with But keep in mind, most salads that you eat out are loaded with carbs, fat and calories, so you have to really pay attention and know what is good and what isn't good... I'm lucky, my family eats pretty healthy and they always consider me when choosing a place to eat... always. And if they want to go somewhere I don't, I don't have a problem in the world saying "you guys go ahead, I'm going to stay behind this time"... it's just not a big deal to me. I can almost always find something I can eat.

How do you know if a salad is loaded with carbs,fat,calories?

[Lady Shazerz]

most big chains have 'nutrition' labels on thier websites. Otherwise, just avoid anything with pasta, chips or dressing on it. I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ask for the dressing on the side.

[cruisegirl1023]

Originally Posted by Starynight

How do you know if a salad is loaded with carbs,fat,calories?

You have to educate yourself, research and ask questions. It's a lot of work, but you should do this for anything you eat out. You should assume that all salads are unhealthy until proven otherwise... because most these days at restaurants, are. First, check the website and see if they have the nutrition information listed. Pay CLOSE attention to the serving size... many are more than 1 serving so you have to either eat only part of the salad, or multiply the nutritional data. Most of the dressings are loaded with fat and carbs... ask them to leave off cheese, croutons, etc. Don't get anything breaded or fried, or anything with chips, sour cream, corn, etc. You have to have a basic idea of what is good, and what is bad. Ask what they have for light dressings, not fat free, light. If they don't have light dressing you can get fat free, or just ask for oil and vinegar, or some lemon wedges. Get it on the side and dip your salad rather than putting it all over your salad.

Someone yesterday was going to get the grilled chicken caesar salad at chilis... it had over 1000 calories, over 70g of fat, and over 30g of carbs... that would be all I could eat for the day, and entirely too much fat. Some more examples of just the Chilis menu (they do not have a "healthy" salad on their menu)

Mesquite Chicken Salad (without the dressing)- 800 calories, 43g of fat, 53g of carbs
Cobb Salad (without the dressing)- 970 calories, 60g of fat, 56g of carbs
Quesadilla Explosion salad- 980 calories, 53g of fat, 78g of carbs

The healthiest salad they have is their house side salad... with 140 cals, 7g fat, 12g carbs... and that's without dressing as well. They have a lowfat vinaigrette which is the healthiest option. They have lowfat honey mustard and ranch, but they are both high in carbs.

So as you can see... just because it says salad, does not mean it's healthy. They don't have a healthy dinner salad on the menu. You would have to ask for those salads minus A LOT of the stuff on them, and get a vinaigrette dressing. You'd be better off ordering a piece of grilled chicken with a side of steamed veggies.

ASK for nutrional info, many places have it. Never guess or assume. Educate yourself about what is healthy and what isn't. Google the restaurant and see if there are links out there with healthy options. I try to stick with restaurants where I can choose something ahead of time...You generally can't go wrong with a grilled protein and steamed veggies, and most restaurants will accomodate you.

[mapgirl]

I had that happen today. I went with a bunch of co-workers to lunch. We ended up at an Italian restrauant. Everyone ordered pasta except for me. I ordered a salad with no dressing. I was also the only one who didn't eat the rolls at the begining. No one noticed, if they did, they didn't say anything. Heck, even if someone would have said something...so what? I'm eating what I want. I think someone on this board has a siggy that says Thin tastes better than any food. Or something like that. I have to agree.

As for fast food. I always keep a protien bar in my purse for emergencies. My kids wanted BurgerKing one day. So, we went inside and I ate my protien bar while they ate their burgers. Didn't bother me in the least. I have a goal, I will reach it. The goal is not a weight goal. It is to make this a lifestyle change, not just to make a weight or size, but for life.