[motorcitybabe]

hello everybody i seem to have a problem i have a 1 year and 10 month old baby girl my hubby seems to love her alot and spoil her and now he's putting her to sleep in btwnn us if i'm being babish but i dont like anyone in my bed i have a toddler that is been sleeping in his own bed on is own in his own room since he was a 2 i put her bed in my room ok but now she's in my bed and i'm not liking it the bed is already enough for me and him we are alwaays getting into arguments about it and i dont like it i want her to get used to her bed and i was thinking of moving her with her bro when she turns 2 and he's saying i dont love her enough like i love my son and what kinda mom hates when her kid sleeps with her in the same bed i dont hate my baby at all and i'm still hurt by that but i want her to get used to her bed and sleeping on her own please help

[JamieE]

Gosh! I wish I knew what to tell ya! Im not a mom so I've never had to deal with this, but I would never tell a mom that they dont love their baby!

[Melinda00]

When my first was born he would sleep so much better if he was in the bed with my and husband i , so i started letting him sleep there because it meant more sleep for me. Well that was a big mistake because when he got bigger and harder to sleep with we could not get him to sleep in his bed. He would lay in his bed and cry till he made himself sick. It took us forever to get him to sleep in his own bed.
When i had my second i said there is no way i am going to go through the same thing again so i put her bed in my room and that is where she slept till i felt it was safe enough to move her bed into her room.
In no way what so ever did it mean that i loved one more than the other. It was a live and learn situation. With your second child you get to do all the things right that you messed up on with the first.
Good luck with the hubby.

[newme2008]

well i am a mom and i absolutely agree with you. i have two kids (boys) neither has ever slept with me even when i was breast feeding

[dbethied]

oh yeah....i've dealt with that kind of thing. not the exact same thing but i have a child from a previous relationship and i always hear "you love her more....you do have another kid you know!" which is so stupid, but i guess it's because i give her more attention since all she has is me and my other child has me and his dad. but anyway REGARDLESS both of my kids sleep and slept in their own beds - end of story - has nothing to do with "favorites" and more to do with me not being paralyzed in the morning when i wake up. just go off on him and tell him if he wants to sleep with her so bad then he can go sleep in her room. OR tell him you think it's time to start potty training and let her sleep in panties one night. when he wakes up in a warm spot he might have a change of heart.

[domsmom]

well my son will be three in a couple months, last january we went on vacation to visit my husbands family and they didnt have a seperate spot for my son to sleep so we let him sleep with us for the two weeks we were up there and hes still sleeping with us to this day, and it is going to be a huge long fight to get him into his own bed again, i know because i have tried several times but end up feeling so bad that i just let him come in with us, we are going to try again after his birthday and make a big deal about him being a bog boy now and needing to be in his own bed, we will see how it goes but my guess is it is not going to be easy, my point is unless you and your husband want this to be a long term thing then i would put your foot down now and keep the baby sleeping in their own bed, and i would explain to your husband that it is a better situation for all involved, everyone sleeps better in their own bed, and also it really hinders any attempt for you and your husband when youre feeling frisky, its hard to be in the mood with a baby between you, trust me!

[newme2008]

the way i see it. your bedroom is for you and your husband. sure you love your children but having the kids in your bed/bedroom takes away all the romance.

[mommyof2n2007]

I have a 2 1/2 year old and an 8 month old.. Both girls.. Sometimes they both occassionally sleep with me. But my 2 year old has her own bed that she takes it upon herself to sleep in because she thinks she's a "princess" and sometimes she gets that little attitude where she just wants to be left alone.. But I don't think that because they sleep with you while they're small means that they will stay in your bed, I think it you teach them self-discipline and they know that it's okay to be independent that they'll move on when they are ready.. That alos what my oldest did with her binky.. Everybody said she'll never get rid of it, but one-day she said I'm done and didn't want it anymore, also with her bottle.. I know all babies are different but I don't think it's abnormal for a small child to want to be with it's partent.

And as for you being wrong, no I don't see it that way either... Their father and I don't live together but when we stay the night at his house, I much prefer for them to be in their own bed then in the bed with us.. That's time that you want to spend with your significant other.. Not worry about rolling over on feet or arms.. Or if they're up under you..

I do have to say that I sleep much better without anybody up under me, I much rather be left alone.. That may be where my oldest gets that from, but when we all sleep in the same bed, I make them space out cause I can't stand the feeling of not being able to move while I sleep.. lol..

It's normal..
Could you not get talk her into sleeping in her bed.. Make it fun, she's almost 2 so she probably already has an imaginary.. Tell her that big girls sleep in their own beds, and if need be reward her for big a "big girl".

[dbethied]

you said you have a toddler that has been sleeping in his own bed in his own room since he was 2? so, before that he slept in the bed with you? i'm not sure i'm reading that right....correct me if i'm not. i don't see how you got him to sleep in his own bed at two years old if he slept with you up until then. i don't know. i let my kids sleep in my room until they were old enough to hold themselves up with their arms and look around because i knew they could lift their head up and cry and wouldn't suffocate if they could do that. then, they went into their own room in the crib and i never had a problem. i put them in there when they were so small though that they didn't know any different so they never cried when i left them in there or anything....just went to sleep. thank god i did one thing right!

[gothprincess]

I didn't let our kids sleep with us either. My twins shared a room when they were little so they had each other. My 8yr old son only sleeps with me now when it storms and the thunder wakes him up. Hubby works overnights so I'm used to having the bed to myself(plus the dog and cat), when my son climbs in bed with me, I go sleep in his bed. He moves around too much.

Ask your husband why he wants her to sleep in your bed. If he's worried that something might happen to her and neither of you hear her(mine was like that at first), then tell him to sleep on the floor in her room for a few nights to reassure both of them that she's ok. You are in no way a bad mom. Good luck!

[Alexandria521]

My husband and I made a rule before we ever had kids, that our bed was just that, ours. I have two children and neither of them have ever slept in my bed. My husband works a lot and I am a stay at home mom, and a lot of the times, the only alone time my husband and I get is when we are in our bed. Now way am I giving that up.

[PRAY2MAKEIT-TODAY]

WELL YOUR FIRST BATTLE BEGINS WITH YOUR HUSBAND AS LONG AS HE DOES NOT AGREE WITH YOU THEN YOU ARE IN FOR IT,BELIEVE ME I KNOW WHAT I'M TELLING YOU,YOU GUYS NEED TO TALK NOW AND PREVENT HEAD ACHES LATER ON.
YOU ARE THE PARENT SHE IS THE CHILD.

[stilltryin08]

OK Terrible mom response coming from me

I HATE WHEN MY KIDS ARE IN BED WITH ME! I mean I love to cuddle, but when I go to sleep, I hate to be wollered on, kicked, crowded, ect. And it never fails, between DH and a child, there is NO room on the bed (KING SIZE BED). My 3 y/o sneaks in once in a while. I can tell. I just dont sleep as good when she does that. But she has learned to sneak in on Daddys side of the bed so mom doesnt try to take her back to her room..lol

If she has bad dream or we have thunder/lightening, ect...then I dont mind, because I do not want her to be scared. My other 2 kids were the same way. If it NEEDS to be done fine, but not just because!

I actually enjoy laying in bed in the morning on weekends with 3 y/o for an hour or so and we watch cartoons! I love that!