Is it really me? I am having a hard time - Phentermine.com

Melba · January 24th, 2006, 12:31 PM

Grasping myself these days. Like I went to the mall saw clothes I liked.. looked at the size 8 and left cause I felt like they were too small I could never do it.

At home my girls snapped this pic and said Mom.. look...stop crying. But for some reason I can't grasp it.

Strange I know. I am proud but oddly sad too!

NChoul · January 24th, 2006, 01:19 PM

Melba,I know it's hard to see yourself as a thin person. You need that reassurance or you still see yourself as an over weight person. I had to take pics of myself at least once a week so I could see for myself that I was thinner. It's a mind game... Because when we are over weight we don't see it in the mirror but as soon as someone takes a pic oh man.It's like am I really that big.You are looking good girl enjoy your success and be happy.

SouthernCharm · January 24th, 2006, 01:25 PM

Melba~

I'm the same way, that's why I post a different picture so often just so I can see myself as others do. There are plenty of days I sitll feel like I'm the old me. I think that's normal, especially when you lose the weight fast. It takes your brain a while to catch up with your eyes! LOL

You look great!!

musiclvr · January 24th, 2006, 01:29 PM

It looks like ya to me! Maybe you can go and have a nice heart to heart with yourself in front of a full mirror. It's you! And you deserve all good things that are coming to you now! You worked hard...and you accomplished your goal. I think you are just beautiful. Enjoy!You earned it!

Melba · January 24th, 2006, 04:49 PM

You guys are so sweet. I never thought that would be a problem. Even big I tried to have confidence..so why am I losing it small?

musiclvr · January 24th, 2006, 05:00 PM

"Even big I tried to have confidence..so why am I losing it small?"

Maybe because it's new? New is always a little scary. Always remember, you're still the same person inside...just healthier now and smaller!

MustangSally · January 24th, 2006, 05:33 PM

Melba...I have one of those totally criminal carnival mirrors in my bedroom...and there is ONE WICKED BEOOTCH looking back at me, and everyday she tries to make me think I am still fat one way or another....
SERIOUSLY...have you heard of any mirror recalls?
I want one that tells me I'm the fairest of them all sort of deal....
You will be okay chicky...go back and put them size 8's on tomorrow...and strut your stuff!
Make yourself feel better tonight...go put on your biggest pair of jeans and take you picture, post it and we will all tell you how awesome you are!

nickandsydsmom · January 24th, 2006, 07:33 PM

You look awesome! I can't wait to get there!

fazolis · January 24th, 2006, 09:11 PM

Melba~ I think you look great, in fact I think You look fantastic.

Girl, go get those size 8's.

Choco-cat · January 25th, 2006, 12:56 AM

Melba you look gorgeous!

I know the feeling though. When I go to try on clothes, I automatically reach for a larger size, without even knowing what the size is. The 8's look to be way too small when I hold them up. I personally still have a fat girl living inside me. I have to constantly look in the mirror to reassure myself that she's moved out and a skinny girl took her place!

Hang in there babe. You're hot now, and hot girls shouldn't be crying!

jaspernotting · January 25th, 2006, 01:06 AM

Go for some glamour shots girl! Looking great!

missus · January 25th, 2006, 02:12 AM

I luv the new pic girl. Got the belt, jeans and pretty top going on. Yep, it's you, Miss Sexy. Grasp it, use it and know that you have done a great job.

Have a good one.

Missus

My_3_Sons · January 25th, 2006, 04:42 AM

Mrs Skinny!!! That last pic you posted shows all the difference in the worlds! What an amazing transformation.

By the way MzSexy what kind of jeans are those? And I LOVE the belt!

January 25th, 2006, 04:55 AM

Melba, I have this issue too. I still look at clothes and think they will be too small, but when I try them on, they are too big! I still have many days that I *feel* fat and that is just a mental barrier I have to get past! It's not easy when you've been heavy a long time. My mom has this problem too, she's been fat her whole life, and had GB surgery. She's a size 10 now and still has a hard time seeing herself that way. You are not alone!

buttercupsbabie2 · January 25th, 2006, 04:58 AM

OH GIRL GO GET THEM PANTS IN AN 8!

YOUR BEAUTIFUL INSDIE AND OUT~

LISTEN WHEN I WAS 268 YES AT ONE POINT I WAS GOSH THOSE WERE NOT SO GOOD DAYS BUT OK MOVING ON WELL WHEN I WAS THAT SIZE WEIRD BUT I THOUGHT I WAS THINNER THEN THAT! I THOUGHT I LOOKED BETTER THEN THAT! WELL THEN I LOST 68 POUNDS AND I FELT SKINNIER BUT NOT SKINNY ENOUGH!!!!!! ITS OUR HEADS ACTING CRAZY GIRL YOU LOST THE WEIGHT AND NOW YOU HAVE TO REPROGRAM YOUR BRAIN TO THINK DIFFERENT! IT WILL TAK SOME TIME BUT YOU WIL GET THERE! LIKE SOMEONE ELSE SAID TAKE A PICTURE OF YOURSELF EVERY WEEK AND POST IT ON THE FRIG ON YOUR MIRROR SOMEWHERE WHERE YOU WILL SEE IT ALL WEEK!

ONCE YOU SEE IT ENOUGH YOUR GONNA BE LIKE YA BABY THATS ME~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

therightrhodes · January 25th, 2006, 05:17 AM

Hey Melba, that's not you, that's a picture from a magazine.

just kidding. My brain has played tricks on me even with the small loss that I've had. Your mind will eventually match your body. I bet it's a nice surprise though when you look in the mirror and expecting to see someone else you see you, for who you are right now. You are a beauty, try to accept that.

MustangSally · January 25th, 2006, 06:24 AM

bump...Melba...you need to get reading what all these people say...
the tribe has spoken...
you have been voted skinny!

My_3_Sons · January 25th, 2006, 07:35 AM

HAD to bump this again. I NEED to know what kind of jeans those are, and where you got the belt!!!

dumbfox · January 25th, 2006, 10:15 AM

Melba, you're as skinny as a crack wh0re and if you continue carrying on like this, with this "whoa is me in my itty bitty 8's" I'm going to bring out my whip.

LMAO - Just kidding sweetie! Seriously, give yourself a break. You look so AMAZING in that picture your girls snapped, thank GAWD for them seeing the change! If they're so proud of you, why aren't you just as proud? What's holding you back from enjoying this and accepting it? The person you are doesn't change with your size...you're still you! And that's what everyone here fell in love with and I'm sure in your real life as well. You're YOU, only thinner. ENJOY IT!!!!

Melba · January 25th, 2006, 10:43 AM

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Originally posted by My_3_Sons:
HAD to bump this again. I NEED to know what kind of jeans those are, and where you got the belt!!!

Okay girl..those jeans are Old Navy.. I think. I am borderlining on American Eagle or Old Navy..but I think I Old Navy.

The belt..is a western belt.. I was wearing boots that day. They do have something kind of like it at Rue 21.. if you have one. I got my daughters one at Rue for 9.99.. mine was alot more..and guess what.. Last hole..I am not happy about that!
But Cavenders is where the original belt came from.. www.cavenders.com

Thanks for those words.. you are too sweet.

JRivera · January 25th, 2006, 10:47 AM

Girl you look great! I have no idea what you are talking about you have accomplished so much! It just motivateds me more to keep going.. I love the simple jeans and black tee outfit.. I got me some love handles...*SIGH* that just wont go away... But girl you look fabulous! just wanted to give ya hugs!

FireplaceNut · January 25th, 2006, 11:40 AM

Melba-You look GREAT!!!

I get that way when guys make comments. My 55 year old friend and I walked into a pub the other day and a guy screamed out "Lord Have Mercy" and he and his 3 friends looked at me.

I still didn't even know he was talking about me until my friend and the multiple drinks that he sent my way confirmed it

Melba · January 25th, 2006, 11:41 AM

Thank you everyone.. You guys are making my day.

DumbFox..I love the crack whor comment.. Love it.. My Best friends..leaves me messages that say Hey Skinny B..lol

So, last night I was sitting at home..and did this .. and it was fun. My DH almost fell in the floor..cause he said he didn't know it..

Beginning

Middle..

A month ago

Sat

NChoul · January 25th, 2006, 12:06 PM

Melba, Wow! Lady you look so amazing. If I were you I would be doing cartwheels around the neighborhood.(lol) Strut your stuff..

Norma

My_3_Sons · January 26th, 2006, 05:51 AM

Thank you Melba! Do you realize you can see your collarbone!! I have a thing with that. I could always see my collar bone and the pelvic bone, so that is a goal of mine lol

You are amazing

January 24th, 2006, 12:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
Melba Silver Phenster Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Arkansas Posts: 495 Lost Weight: 53lbs Current Weight: 162 Goal Weight: 150 Melba's Photos	Grasping myself these days. Like I went to the mall saw clothes I liked.. looked at the size 8 and left cause I felt like they were too small I could never do it. At home my girls snapped this pic and said Mom.. look...stop crying. But for some reason I can't grasp it. Strange I know. I am proud but oddly sad too! __________________

January 24th, 2006, 01:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
NChoul Silver Phenster Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 201 Lost Weight: 17lbs Current Weight: 203 Goal Weight: 145-150 NChoul's Photos	Melba,I know it's hard to see yourself as a thin person. You need that reassurance or you still see yourself as an over weight person. I had to take pics of myself at least once a week so I could see for myself that I was thinner. It's a mind game... Because when we are over weight we don't see it in the mirror but as soon as someone takes a pic oh man.It's like am I really that big.You are looking good girl enjoy your success and be happy. __________________ [/IMG]

January 24th, 2006, 01:29 PM	#4 (permalink)
musiclvr Bronze Phenster Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 39 Lost Weight: 20.5 pounds Current Weight: 237 Goal Weight: 160 musiclvr's Photos	It looks like ya to me! Maybe you can go and have a nice heart to heart with yourself in front of a full mirror. It's you! And you deserve all good things that are coming to you now! You worked hard...and you accomplished your goal. I think you are just beautiful. Enjoy!You earned it! __________________ Started Phen 12-14-05 HW 257.5 CW 237 (2-21-06) GW 160 by 50th Birthday Dec 1, 2006

January 24th, 2006, 04:49 PM	#5 (permalink)
Melba Silver Phenster Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Arkansas Posts: 495 Lost Weight: 53lbs Current Weight: 162 Goal Weight: 150 Melba's Photos	You guys are so sweet. I never thought that would be a problem. Even big I tried to have confidence..so why am I losing it small? __________________

January 24th, 2006, 05:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
musiclvr Bronze Phenster Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 39 Lost Weight: 20.5 pounds Current Weight: 237 Goal Weight: 160 musiclvr's Photos	"Even big I tried to have confidence..so why am I losing it small?" Maybe because it's new? New is always a little scary. Always remember, you're still the same person inside...just healthier now and smaller! __________________ Started Phen 12-14-05 HW 257.5 CW 237 (2-21-06) GW 160 by 50th Birthday Dec 1, 2006

January 24th, 2006, 01:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
SouthernCharm Diamond Phenster Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: MS Posts: 2,428 Current Weight: 145 Goal Weight: 125 SouthernCharm's Photos	Melba~ I'm the same way, that's why I post a different picture so often just so I can see myself as others do. There are plenty of days I sitll feel like I'm the old me. I think that's normal, especially when you lose the weight fast. It takes your brain a while to catch up with your eyes! LOL You look great!!

January 24th, 2006, 05:33 PM	#7 (permalink)
MustangSally Platinum Phenster Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 1,129 Lost Weight: i lost track...almost 80lbs Current Weight: 148 MustangSally's Photos	Melba...I have one of those totally criminal carnival mirrors in my bedroom...and there is ONE WICKED BEOOTCH looking back at me, and everyday she tries to make me think I am still fat one way or another.... SERIOUSLY...have you heard of any mirror recalls? I want one that tells me I'm the fairest of them all sort of deal.... You will be okay chicky...go back and put them size 8's on tomorrow...and strut your stuff! Make yourself feel better tonight...go put on your biggest pair of jeans and take you picture, post it and we will all tell you how awesome you are!

January 24th, 2006, 07:33 PM	#8 (permalink)
nickandsydsmom Platinum Phenster Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: usa Posts: 1,255 Lost Weight: 37 Current Weight: 194 Goal Weight: 140 nickandsydsmom's Photos	You look awesome! I can't wait to get there! __________________ SW 233 CW 194

January 24th, 2006, 09:11 PM	#9 (permalink)
fazolis Gold Phenster Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Ohio Posts: 539 Lost Weight: 41 Current Weight: starting weight ~~~ 251 lbs Goal Weight: 201 for a mini goal~~2-b- 50lbs down fazolis's Photos	Melba~ I think you look great, in fact I think You look fantastic. Girl, go get those size 8's.

January 25th, 2006, 12:56 AM	#10 (permalink)
Choco-cat Diamond Phenster Join Date: May 2005 Location: Indiana Posts: 4,107 Lost Weight: 41 Current Weight: 149 Goal Weight: 135-140 Choco-cat's Photos	Melba you look gorgeous! I know the feeling though. When I go to try on clothes, I automatically reach for a larger size, without even knowing what the size is. The 8's look to be way too small when I hold them up. I personally still have a fat girl living inside me. I have to constantly look in the mirror to reassure myself that she's moved out and a skinny girl took her place! Hang in there babe. You're hot now, and hot girls shouldn't be crying! __________________ 31 years old 5'4" HW: 194 SW: 187 (size 14) CW: 158 (size 8/10) GW: 135-140

January 25th, 2006, 01:06 AM	#11 (permalink)
jaspernotting Platinum Phenster Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Singapore Posts: 1,765 Lost Weight: lost some... gain some... Current Weight: 144lbs Goal Weight: 126 lbs (this will take forever) jaspernotting's Photos	Go for some glamour shots girl! Looking great! __________________ 5' 2" - 136 lbs Success is never final, and failure never fatal. It's courage that counts.

January 25th, 2006, 02:12 AM	#12 (permalink)
missus Purple People Eater Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,383 Lost Weight: 5 Current Weight: 215 lbs Goal Weight: 200 missus's Photos	I luv the new pic girl. Got the belt, jeans and pretty top going on. Yep, it's you, Miss Sexy. Grasp it, use it and know that you have done a great job. Have a good one. Missus __________________ Hard work has made it easy. That is my secret. That is why I win. -Nadia Comaneci

January 25th, 2006, 04:42 AM	#13 (permalink)
My_3_Sons Platinum Phenster Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 1,293 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 145 Goal Weight: 120 My_3_Sons's Photos	Mrs Skinny!!! That last pic you posted shows all the difference in the worlds! What an amazing transformation. By the way MzSexy what kind of jeans are those? And I LOVE the belt! __________________ *Currently, June 1st* 145! thighs 21" calves 14" biceps 11.5" midriff (small of waist) 32.5" waist (at bellybutton) 35.25" hip 39.5" bust 39"

January 25th, 2006, 04:55 AM	#14 (permalink)
imjustagoyle Guest Posts: n/a imjustagoyle's Photos	Melba, I have this issue too. I still look at clothes and think they will be too small, but when I try them on, they are too big! I still have many days that I feel fat and that is just a mental barrier I have to get past! It's not easy when you've been heavy a long time. My mom has this problem too, she's been fat her whole life, and had GB surgery. She's a size 10 now and still has a hard time seeing herself that way. You are not alone!

January 25th, 2006, 04:58 AM	#15 (permalink)
buttercupsbabie2 Diamond Phenster Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Pushing Myself From Dinner Table Posts: 2,578 Lost Weight: sw 246.5 Current Weight: 235 Goal Weight: 150 buttercupsbabie2's Photos	OH GIRL GO GET THEM PANTS IN AN 8! YOUR BEAUTIFUL INSDIE AND OUT~ LISTEN WHEN I WAS 268 YES AT ONE POINT I WAS GOSH THOSE WERE NOT SO GOOD DAYS BUT OK MOVING ON WELL WHEN I WAS THAT SIZE WEIRD BUT I THOUGHT I WAS THINNER THEN THAT! I THOUGHT I LOOKED BETTER THEN THAT! WELL THEN I LOST 68 POUNDS AND I FELT SKINNIER BUT NOT SKINNY ENOUGH!!!!!! ITS OUR HEADS ACTING CRAZY GIRL YOU LOST THE WEIGHT AND NOW YOU HAVE TO REPROGRAM YOUR BRAIN TO THINK DIFFERENT! IT WILL TAK SOME TIME BUT YOU WIL GET THERE! LIKE SOMEONE ELSE SAID TAKE A PICTURE OF YOURSELF EVERY WEEK AND POST IT ON THE FRIG ON YOUR MIRROR SOMEWHERE WHERE YOU WILL SEE IT ALL WEEK! ONCE YOU SEE IT ENOUGH YOUR GONNA BE LIKE YA BABY THATS ME~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ __________________ Weigh In 15th Of Each Month: Starting Weight:246 AGAIN MONTH 1: -11 (235) MONTH 2: -6 (229) -17 JOURNEY: The bend in the road is not the end of the road, unless you refuse to take the turn.

January 25th, 2006, 05:17 AM	#16 (permalink)
therightrhodes Gold Phenster Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Mustang, Oklahoma Posts: 641 Lost Weight: 50 Current Weight: 298 Goal Weight: 190 therightrhodes's Photos	Hey Melba, that's not you, that's a picture from a magazine. just kidding. My brain has played tricks on me even with the small loss that I've had. Your mind will eventually match your body. I bet it's a nice surprise though when you look in the mirror and expecting to see someone else you see you, for who you are right now. You are a beauty, try to accept that. __________________ Have a great day! Trent Before 3/16/2006 Start Date: November 12, 2005 Mini-goals (300 and 235) Ultimate Goal (190)

January 25th, 2006, 06:24 AM	#17 (permalink)
MustangSally Platinum Phenster Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 1,129 Lost Weight: i lost track...almost 80lbs Current Weight: 148 MustangSally's Photos	bump...Melba...you need to get reading what all these people say... the tribe has spoken... you have been voted skinny!

January 25th, 2006, 07:35 AM	#18 (permalink)
My_3_Sons Platinum Phenster Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 1,293 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 145 Goal Weight: 120 My_3_Sons's Photos	HAD to bump this again. I NEED to know what kind of jeans those are, and where you got the belt!!! __________________ *Currently, June 1st* 145! thighs 21" calves 14" biceps 11.5" midriff (small of waist) 32.5" waist (at bellybutton) 35.25" hip 39.5" bust 39"

January 25th, 2006, 10:15 AM	#19 (permalink)
dumbfox Platinum Phenster Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Dayton, OH Posts: 1,144 Lost Weight: -55 Current Weight: 198 Goal Weight: 137 dumbfox's Photos	Melba, you're as skinny as a crack wh0re and if you continue carrying on like this, with this "whoa is me in my itty bitty 8's" I'm going to bring out my whip. LMAO - Just kidding sweetie! Seriously, give yourself a break. You look so AMAZING in that picture your girls snapped, thank GAWD for them seeing the change! If they're so proud of you, why aren't you just as proud? What's holding you back from enjoying this and accepting it? The person you are doesn't change with your size...you're still you! And that's what everyone here fell in love with and I'm sure in your real life as well. You're YOU, only thinner. ENJOY IT!!!! __________________ Measurements: Bust - Was 42" ~ Now 36" Waist - Was 39" ~ Now 27" Hips - Was 46" ~ Now 38" See my critters:

January 25th, 2006, 10:47 AM	#21 (permalink)
JRivera Silver Phenster Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 488 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 180 Goal Weight: 130 JRivera's Photos	Girl you look great! I have no idea what you are talking about you have accomplished so much! It just motivateds me more to keep going.. I love the simple jeans and black tee outfit.. I got me some love handles...SIGH that just wont go away... But girl you look fabulous! just wanted to give ya hugs! __________________ ~~Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don`t matter and those who matter don`t mind ~~ A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you today just the way you are.~*~

January 25th, 2006, 11:40 AM	#22 (permalink)
FireplaceNut Platinum Phenster Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Colorado Posts: 1,246 Lost Weight: 69 Current Weight: 136 Goal Weight: 119 FireplaceNut's Photos	Melba-You look GREAT!!! I get that way when guys make comments. My 55 year old friend and I walked into a pub the other day and a guy screamed out "Lord Have Mercy" and he and his 3 friends looked at me. I still didn't even know he was talking about me until my friend and the multiple drinks that he sent my way confirmed it __________________ SW: 205 (10/15/04) CW: 136 (12/29/07) GW: 119 "Be not cheap or mediocre in desiring." Ezra Pound

January 25th, 2006, 11:41 AM	#23 (permalink)
Melba Silver Phenster Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Arkansas Posts: 495 Lost Weight: 53lbs Current Weight: 162 Goal Weight: 150 Melba's Photos	Thank you everyone.. You guys are making my day. DumbFox..I love the crack whor comment.. Love it.. My Best friends..leaves me messages that say Hey Skinny B..lol So, last night I was sitting at home..and did this .. and it was fun. My DH almost fell in the floor..cause he said he didn't know it.. Beginning Middle.. A month ago Sat __________________

January 25th, 2006, 12:06 PM	#24 (permalink)
NChoul Silver Phenster Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 201 Lost Weight: 17lbs Current Weight: 203 Goal Weight: 145-150 NChoul's Photos	Melba, Wow! Lady you look so amazing. If I were you I would be doing cartwheels around the neighborhood.(lol) Strut your stuff.. Norma __________________ [/IMG]

January 26th, 2006, 05:51 AM	#25 (permalink)
My_3_Sons Platinum Phenster Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 1,293 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 145 Goal Weight: 120 My_3_Sons's Photos	Thank you Melba! Do you realize you can see your collarbone!! I have a thing with that. I could always see my collar bone and the pelvic bone, so that is a goal of mine lol You are amazing __________________ *Currently, June 1st* 145! thighs 21" calves 14" biceps 11.5" midriff (small of waist) 32.5" waist (at bellybutton) 35.25" hip 39.5" bust 39"

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