Is it really me? I am having a hard time

[Melba]

Grasping myself these days. Like I went to the mall saw clothes I liked.. looked at the size 8 and left cause I felt like they were too small I could never do it.

At home my girls snapped this pic and said Mom.. look...stop crying. But for some reason I can't grasp it.

Strange I know. I am proud but oddly sad too!

[NChoul]

Melba,I know it's hard to see yourself as a thin person. You need that reassurance or you still see yourself as an over weight person. I had to take pics of myself at least once a week so I could see for myself that I was thinner. It's a mind game... Because when we are over weight we don't see it in the mirror but as soon as someone takes a pic oh man.It's like am I really that big.You are looking good girl enjoy your success and be happy.

[SouthernCharm]

Melba~

I'm the same way, that's why I post a different picture so often just so I can see myself as others do. There are plenty of days I sitll feel like I'm the old me. I think that's normal, especially when you lose the weight fast. It takes your brain a while to catch up with your eyes! LOL

You look great!!

[musiclvr]

It looks like ya to me! Maybe you can go and have a nice heart to heart with yourself in front of a full mirror. It's you! And you deserve all good things that are coming to you now! You worked hard...and you accomplished your goal. I think you are just beautiful. Enjoy!You earned it!

[Melba]

You guys are so sweet. I never thought that would be a problem. Even big I tried to have confidence..so why am I losing it small?

[musiclvr]

"Even big I tried to have confidence..so why am I losing it small?"

Maybe because it's new? New is always a little scary. Always remember, you're still the same person inside...just healthier now and smaller!

[MustangSally]

Melba...I have one of those totally criminal carnival mirrors in my bedroom...and there is ONE WICKED BEOOTCH looking back at me, and everyday she tries to make me think I am still fat one way or another....
SERIOUSLY...have you heard of any mirror recalls?
I want one that tells me I'm the fairest of them all sort of deal....
You will be okay chicky...go back and put them size 8's on tomorrow...and strut your stuff!
Make yourself feel better tonight...go put on your biggest pair of jeans and take you picture, post it and we will all tell you how awesome you are!

[nickandsydsmom]

You look awesome! I can't wait to get there!

[fazolis]

Melba~ I think you look great, in fact I think You look fantastic.

Girl, go get those size 8's.

[Choco-cat]

Melba you look gorgeous! I know the feeling though. When I go to try on clothes, I automatically reach for a larger size, without even knowing what the size is. The 8's look to be way too small when I hold them up. I personally still have a fat girl living inside me. I have to constantly look in the mirror to reassure myself that she's moved out and a skinny girl took her place!

Hang in there babe. You're hot now, and hot girls shouldn't be crying!

[jaspernotting]

Go for some glamour shots girl! Looking great!

[missus]

I luv the new pic girl. Got the belt, jeans and pretty top going on. Yep, it's you, Miss Sexy. Grasp it, use it and know that you have done a great job.

Have a good one.

Missus

[My_3_Sons]

Mrs Skinny!!! That last pic you posted shows all the difference in the worlds! What an amazing transformation.

By the way MzSexy what kind of jeans are those? And I LOVE the belt!

[imjustagoyle]

Melba, I have this issue too. I still look at clothes and think they will be too small, but when I try them on, they are too big! I still have many days that I *feel* fat and that is just a mental barrier I have to get past! It's not easy when you've been heavy a long time. My mom has this problem too, she's been fat her whole life, and had GB surgery. She's a size 10 now and still has a hard time seeing herself that way. You are not alone!

[buttercupsbabie2]

OH GIRL GO GET THEM PANTS IN AN 8!

YOUR BEAUTIFUL INSDIE AND OUT~

LISTEN WHEN I WAS 268 YES AT ONE POINT I WAS GOSH THOSE WERE NOT SO GOOD DAYS BUT OK MOVING ON WELL WHEN I WAS THAT SIZE WEIRD BUT I THOUGHT I WAS THINNER THEN THAT! I THOUGHT I LOOKED BETTER THEN THAT! WELL THEN I LOST 68 POUNDS AND I FELT SKINNIER BUT NOT SKINNY ENOUGH!!!!!! ITS OUR HEADS ACTING CRAZY GIRL YOU LOST THE WEIGHT AND NOW YOU HAVE TO REPROGRAM YOUR BRAIN TO THINK DIFFERENT! IT WILL TAK SOME TIME BUT YOU WIL GET THERE! LIKE SOMEONE ELSE SAID TAKE A PICTURE OF YOURSELF EVERY WEEK AND POST IT ON THE FRIG ON YOUR MIRROR SOMEWHERE WHERE YOU WILL SEE IT ALL WEEK!

ONCE YOU SEE IT ENOUGH YOUR GONNA BE LIKE YA BABY THATS ME~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

[therightrhodes]

Hey Melba, that's not you, that's a picture from a magazine. just kidding. My brain has played tricks on me even with the small loss that I've had. Your mind will eventually match your body. I bet it's a nice surprise though when you look in the mirror and expecting to see someone else you see you, for who you are right now. You are a beauty, try to accept that.

[MustangSally]

bump...Melba...you need to get reading what all these people say...
the tribe has spoken...
you have been voted skinny!

[My_3_Sons]

HAD to bump this again. I NEED to know what kind of jeans those are, and where you got the belt!!!

[dumbfox]

Melba, you're as skinny as a crack wh0re and if you continue carrying on like this, with this "whoa is me in my itty bitty 8's" I'm going to bring out my whip.

LMAO - Just kidding sweetie! Seriously, give yourself a break. You look so AMAZING in that picture your girls snapped, thank GAWD for them seeing the change! If they're so proud of you, why aren't you just as proud? What's holding you back from enjoying this and accepting it? The person you are doesn't change with your size...you're still you! And that's what everyone here fell in love with and I'm sure in your real life as well. You're YOU, only thinner. ENJOY IT!!!!

[Melba]

Originally posted by My_3_Sons:
HAD to bump this again. I NEED to know what kind of jeans those are, and where you got the belt!!!

Okay girl..those jeans are Old Navy.. I think. I am borderlining on American Eagle or Old Navy..but I think I Old Navy.

The belt..is a western belt.. I was wearing boots that day. They do have something kind of like it at Rue 21.. if you have one. I got my daughters one at Rue for 9.99.. mine was alot more..and guess what.. Last hole..I am not happy about that!
But Cavenders is where the original belt came from.. www.cavenders.com

Thanks for those words.. you are too sweet.

[JRivera]

Girl you look great! I have no idea what you are talking about you have accomplished so much! It just motivateds me more to keep going.. I love the simple jeans and black tee outfit.. I got me some love handles...*SIGH* that just wont go away... But girl you look fabulous! just wanted to give ya hugs!

[FireplaceNut]

Melba-You look GREAT!!!

I get that way when guys make comments. My 55 year old friend and I walked into a pub the other day and a guy screamed out "Lord Have Mercy" and he and his 3 friends looked at me.

I still didn't even know he was talking about me until my friend and the multiple drinks that he sent my way confirmed it

[Melba]

Thank you everyone.. You guys are making my day.

DumbFox..I love the crack whor comment.. Love it.. My Best friends..leaves me messages that say Hey Skinny B..lol

So, last night I was sitting at home..and did this .. and it was fun. My DH almost fell in the floor..cause he said he didn't know it..

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Middle..

A month ago

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[NChoul]

Melba, Wow! Lady you look so amazing. If I were you I would be doing cartwheels around the neighborhood.(lol) Strut your stuff.. Norma

[My_3_Sons]

Thank you Melba! Do you realize you can see your collarbone!! I have a thing with that. I could always see my collar bone and the pelvic bone, so that is a goal of mine lol
You are amazing