i wish i had the strength u all have

[StopN2Go]

i just had to put that out there. some of u may read this. some of u wont. like i said to someone to night, some of u chose to do something about ur problems. i chose to fall apart and now im two steps back from where i began. i dont want to seem like a negetive influence, i just wish i could do what u all have done.

[Dawndownunder.]

I wish i could too.
I get so far and then take two giant steps back
sorry i cant be more help, but know your not alone.

[StopN2Go]

thanks!

[sabrinnainMN]

I know what your saying-I often feel that way myself. It is so easy to come down on ourselves and beat ourselves up when we fail. Someone once asked me as I was bad mouthing myself if I would talk that way about someone else. Or if I would want someone to say the words I was saying about myself to me-the answer was no-we can be so mean to ourselves.

About taking those steps back with weight loss, think about your best china or dishes. If you drop a plate and break it do you start throwing all the dishes out of the cabinet and breaking them. No, you clean up the broken plate, throw it away and move on. There are many days I mess up, but I really have to tell myself that tomorrow is a new day-there is nothing I can do about how I messed up with my eating the day before. Weight loss is so hard because it is such a mind game.

Any time you want to chat or vent please message me-I feel your pain.

Sabrinna

[StopN2Go]

ha, let me explainin metaphorical terms as u put it: after i broke the plate i proceeded to shattered the rest of the china, and anything else of value and torched it. (again, metaphorically, not literally) with me, when it rains, it pours, then is followed by atornado. too many metaphors i know, but man, im only 20 and i feel like im already havin a midlife crisis, and that makes me fear growning up.

[rene76]

hey stop~ i feel ya~ this is me today~ i had cinn. ROLLS for breakfast, then i had a bowl of cereal~ nacho fries from Jim Bobs for lunch~ then i snacked all afternoon~ chinese buffet for dinner~ a mini bag of chex mix for snack and now i just made brownies of which i intend to eat! sooooooooo....i'm right there with ya sister! i tell you what a lot of my problem is~ stress~ to much stress makes me eat~ right now~ my stress issue is my husband~ but i won't go into that ~ lol~ all i know is that we can do this if we set our minds to it!!! i have faith in you!~ you'll come out of it in your own time!!
~rene'

[sabrinnainMN]

I love Chinese Rene, I too stuffed my face with Burger King tonight!!

Stop-I am sorry For what your are going through. Life really stinks sometimes. You are very young to be going through whatever you are going through. I really hope things get better.

[olley]

Heck.....no one wants to admit this....but unless your weight loss is about health, rather than self-esteem issues?

The people in the far east who just survived the horrors of the recent tragedy, couldn't care less about how much they weigh or what they look like in clothes.

I'm trying to think of this and put it in perspective for me. I still come out of it, even overweight, thinking I am lucky.

I've been on Phen for several days....and drinking lots of water. I guess I'm glad I had a choice of food today.

Oops.......sorry......not a bashing, but I've seen pics of you all and think you are all lovely. The world would envy you. It's all about perspective, isn't it???

[StopN2Go]

i use to be otivated. i use to be a health nut. i use to be everyhitng i wanted (evern though mmy ex told me he wanted more). but im so afraid because i gained all this weight last june, and its now there and more still. ive had so much styress my whole life, but this last year capitalize it. i just dont know what to anymore. when u dont have family and ur 1300 miles from ur best friend (whom as no idea what uve gone through) what do u do.i shouldnt say this, and its sad to say, but when i moved 1300 miles from home, the only reason im alive right now is due to the fact that friends i meet away from home made sure i didnt do anyhting stupid.

[olley]

Ah .....Stop.... I get it. it's so much more about what is happening internally for us.

I've put on 40+ pounds in the last few years....and have to deal with folks I've known since I was a skinny 20 something.

They all look at me as if I am an alien now.

HEY ALL! I'm grown up and a full-blown woman now...... not a kid anymore. I look so much like my mom...loved her and thought she was beautiful.

I guess I thought I'd be me for a longer time. But that is stupid. I'd rather be a classy, together woman than a teenager anyway.

I need to work on this.

[olley]

Oh.....just saw your post! I'd say you need to find your own way, maybe go home to visit your distant family and friends, or just call them to reconnect.

Bottom line is.......we own our own skin. If we're not comfortable in it, we need to work on it to make ourselves feel better.

I'm trying as I know you are too. But guess what? Those folks that knew you and miss you don't care if you gained 10, 50 or 200 pounds since they have seen you last.

It's so much more about your spirit than your shell....isn't it?

[Taurus85]

hey Stop- Im 19, and there are some other girls on this site that are all in college and we have a buddy board going. Its ok, if you aren't in college or anything, you fit the right age! you just go to the forum main menu and scroll all the way down to buddy board, then you will see the topic, "Looking for someone to keep my college student @$$ motivated!" its started by me, so just look for my name! You are welcome to join, 2 new girls just started this week! We try to post everyday with what we ate, water we drank, exercise, and just what we are feeling. We do measurements and weighins every month so we can see each others progress. You can come join us if you'd like. Hope you consider!

[StopN2Go]

i am in college taurus! (im 20)

olley - my mom kicked me out over the summer. she's a good lady, and i respect her, but she hits the bottle too hard sometimes and this summer she was kickin me out cuz she said im lazy and have gotten fat and that no one likes me. my dad comments on it all the time, even my grandparents. i have two gorgeous model-like sisters. both never had to worry about their weight, either did my parents, but i got the ole' hungarian genes from my grandmother, but ive always been the athlete and i havent been "chubby" since 6th grade. and my best friend is a little bigger than me, always has been, but she has a boyfriend who loves her and a family. my boyfriend wanted me to be perfect, and i did what he said, then he left me after 5 years. my high school sweetheart, first love type thing. but he was the only real thing i had to love and he just dropped me. i am very thankful for everything i have, and def. know there are worse things to worry about. it just makes me hate life knowin there is so much pain in it.

[astruggler]

stopn2go - your name says exactly that... sometimes you have to stop before you can go.. it's just how life is... instead of beating yourself up about the downfalls, appreciate the lessons learned. at some point, we all have to stop and re-evaluate our situations and sometimes - it means retracing some steps, starting back up, and taking new directions. look at the "steps back" as challenges... you can only get stronger from them.

SabrinnainMN - I live in MN too... And I swear I went to high school with a guy that looks like your husband... Did he go to North? How weird is that?!?! LOL

[Tigress]

Please don't get down. Take a break and sit down and look at all the good you have done in your life for yourself. I have lost lots of inches and weight. Although my siblings have not noticed and all they say is that I need to lose more weight. It hurts me and makes me want to eat a pint of ice cream - then I think about what they said and realize they are criticizing me because they are jealous. Keep a positive attitude, although it is not easy. There are times when I want to give up and then I look at my son and realize I am doing this for him and me. Remember we are all hear for you when you need a friend, or a shoulder.