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texasmom · January 4th, 2005, 06:13 AM

ok..seems like this is the best place for me to air this out.. since i get so much great advice otherwise!

OK! i had this best friend. our daughters would play together.. we live in the same neighborhood.. etc.. well.. it all came to a halt when my hubby told me she came on to him one night.. when i wasnt around.. and when i say came on to him.. i mean came on to him.. HEAVILY!! every since then we have talked and had words... she finally admitted what she did.. and how he reacted to it.. she said she was embarrassed cuz he pushed her away! and didnt expect that.. NOW... we are on complete NON talking terms.. BUT.. i have to see her DAILY cuz again, our kids go to school together and we are in the same neighborhood! this mornign was the first time i had seen her in 2 weeks since school has been out.. and UGH... i never thought i wanted to strangle anyone more in my life! STILL after all this time! * happened end of Sept* soo... now, im left with still HOW to deal with my anger?? she is thin and alwasy made such a big deal about HER being thin and i wasnt.. made me feel inadquete comapared to her.. only thing is.. like i told her one night.. thin dosent make u beautiful!and she was stunned.. like huh.. which she isnt very attractive.. just THIN.. but anyways.. now im left to see her daily and feel this anger, like i wanna ring a chickens neck lol.. OH and she hates HATES the idea that im getting thin!! hates it.. and told me on our last conversation that she dosent feel comfortable with ME around her hubby!! im like WHAT!!!! such a dummy.. shes the type that cheats and flirts when hubby is away.. but then boohoos and gets all worked up when he does something or says something.. a total hipocrite.. how do u deal with complete hate for someone that u have to see daily!!?? help??

Tia · January 4th, 2005, 06:20 AM

Beats the he!! out of me! But that right there would make me want to lose more weight

Melmin · January 4th, 2005, 06:38 AM

First of all, you are much better off without her as a "friend". Friends do not do that. You are much better off without her in your life and even though you see her every morning ignore her, act like she doesnt even exist. So what she is skinny, she is ugly on the inside or else she wouldnt of done that to you. You are beautiful inside & out and are better off without her in your life. I am glad to hear your husband told you because that just shows you really have a honest relationship that is great!!! She is probably very jealous of your relationship also.

Sorry you had to go through this. I know it really s*cks when someone you think is a friend and someone you can trust and then this happens. Just know you are better off without her in your life.

EmBee30 · January 4th, 2005, 06:46 AM

I think Melmin hit it right on target. She is apparently very envious of YOU and what you have.
I don't know how to get over feeling the anger..other than just time healing those things, but rest assured that you have a great man! I'd just ignore her as much as possible and not give her the satisfaction of thinking you are the least bit bothered or intimidated by her. Because in fact, she is probably intimidated by YOU.

rockin70girl · January 4th, 2005, 08:07 AM

You are so blessed to have a husband who loves you so much that he turned her down then told you what she did!! Wouldn't it feel so good to walk up to her a just beoch slap her!!! Since you probably shouldnt do that just look at her and laugh. Laugh out loud at her she made a total ***** out of herself. You are beautiful inside and out and happily married. Something she obviously is not and never will be.

beckyinvb · January 4th, 2005, 08:12 AM

She sounds like a person who has low self-esteem and has to pull stunts like that to validate herself. It's great that your husband told you too. On my way to work, I saw this saying for the longest time "he who angers you controls you." It's true. Too many people try to anger you to get a reaction. I don't like to let people have that kind of influence over my reactions, etc.

rockin70girl · January 4th, 2005, 08:22 AM

WOW Becky It couldnt have been said any better then that!!

gila91 · January 4th, 2005, 10:04 AM

I also agree with Becky...don't let what she did control you! The next time you see this woman (I don't know if that is what I want to call her), hold your head up, put your nose up into the air, throw your shoulders back and roll your eyes! Body language says it all! She will read it. My daughter taught me how to do this LOL!!!

Bama Belle · January 4th, 2005, 01:32 PM

Personally, I just want to go kick her ***** for you!! What a Biotch!!

Christy223 · January 4th, 2005, 01:49 PM

One word "jealous"! Even when you were 35 lbs heavier she was jealous! I bet she really is BOILING now that you look so daggum HOT! Keep on losing baby!!

texasmom · January 4th, 2005, 03:16 PM

hey ladies!

thanks for the awesome kind words.. its been a struggle for sure! saw her again after school during pick-up.. and well.. still wanted to strangle her! lmao.. nothings changed! oh well.. just trying to get to some level of peace with this so i wont wanna beoch slap her everytime i see her!*rocking70girl* too funny!!

the crap we have to deal with and then on top of daily life struggles... we have people like that!

amazing...

thanks again for the wise words..

without even knowing her..
yall NAILED her to a TEE!!

NOW i just wish she would move!

oh well.............. we can only dream!

texasmom · January 4th, 2005, 03:22 PM

OH and Tia..

That was my COMPLETE motivation for losing.. and well still is................. makes me more and more determined!

amazing.. where we finally pull the strength from to get this done!

thanks..

Amy T · January 4th, 2005, 03:34 PM

TXMom.. You got awesome words of wisdom already, I just wanted to tell you I think your doing great and her insecurities can't hurt you!

Down2it · January 4th, 2005, 03:53 PM

Hiya TXMom :0)
In my life I have seen MANY people who can only feel good about themselves if they make someone else feel bad! She is one of them....sounds like she has very low self esteem. She must be perceiving you as a threat now that you are getting thin (since you've always been a cutie!)..that was the one thing she had over on you and now she's losing it...in all other areas you so far surpass her it probably makes her teeth ache!
In your situation I doubt I'd ever stop being angry with her..she's a slime and I wouldn't trust her as far as I could fling her scrawny little rear!
Well, you know what they say..living well is the best revenge..I would just make sure she sees how ABSOLUTELY in love and happy you and your hubby are...that ought to keep her stewing for a while!

doubletrouble · January 4th, 2005, 04:35 PM

Women have more b*lls than most men. I had a similar situation happen to me. I think you should turn your anger into a happy, in your face gloat that says - press on - my husband doesn't want you. That says a lot for him and your marriage! You are beautiful and should concentrate on positive energy. This biatch is pure NEGATIVE energy. I would just look at her when she boo hooed and say, "God, your life is pretty sad," then smile and switch and wiggle your butt as much as you can!!! HA

January 4th, 2005, 06:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
texasmom Diamond Phenster Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: S.A. Posts: 2,029 Lost Weight: started Phen Oct-04 Current Weight: 173 Goal Weight: 145	ok..seems like this is the best place for me to air this out.. since i get so much great advice otherwise! OK! i had this best friend. our daughters would play together.. we live in the same neighborhood.. etc.. well.. it all came to a halt when my hubby told me she came on to him one night.. when i wasnt around.. and when i say came on to him.. i mean came on to him.. HEAVILY!! every since then we have talked and had words... she finally admitted what she did.. and how he reacted to it.. she said she was embarrassed cuz he pushed her away! and didnt expect that.. NOW... we are on complete NON talking terms.. BUT.. i have to see her DAILY cuz again, our kids go to school together and we are in the same neighborhood! this mornign was the first time i had seen her in 2 weeks since school has been out.. and UGH... i never thought i wanted to strangle anyone more in my life! STILL after all this time! * happened end of Sept* soo... now, im left with still HOW to deal with my anger?? she is thin and alwasy made such a big deal about HER being thin and i wasnt.. made me feel inadquete comapared to her.. only thing is.. like i told her one night.. thin dosent make u beautiful!and she was stunned.. like huh.. which she isnt very attractive.. just THIN.. but anyways.. now im left to see her daily and feel this anger, like i wanna ring a chickens neck lol.. OH and she hates HATES the idea that im getting thin!! hates it.. and told me on our last conversation that she dosent feel comfortable with ME around her hubby!! im like WHAT!!!! such a dummy.. shes the type that cheats and flirts when hubby is away.. but then boohoos and gets all worked up when he does something or says something.. a total hipocrite.. how do u deal with complete hate for someone that u have to see daily!!?? help?? 253...10/31/04... Started Phen 190...5/25/05 and got stuck 4ever 184...12/31/05 finally its movin' 180...1/4/06 175...1/11/06 173...1/20/06 171...1/27/06 169...2/1/06 165...3/3/06 168...3/30/06 175...5/1/06 YIKES! 173...5/9/06 *180...6/6/06

January 4th, 2005, 06:20 AM	#2 (permalink)
Tia Silver Phenster Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,187 Lost Weight: 102 Current Weight: 173 Goal Weight: 150	Beats the he!! out of me! But that right there would make me want to lose more weight SW- 275 7-2001 CW- 183 Body Fat % 30.9 11-1-04 28.2 12-11-04 Lean Muscle Mass 127 pounds 11-1 132 pounds 12-11 Body Fat Goal 22% Be-Commited! Do-What it takes! Have-What you want!

January 4th, 2005, 06:46 AM	#4 (permalink)
EmBee30 Platinum Phenster Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: SE TX Posts: 1,019 Lost Weight: 40+ Current Weight: 144	I think Melmin hit it right on target. She is apparently very envious of YOU and what you have. I don't know how to get over feeling the anger..other than just time healing those things, but rest assured that you have a great man! I'd just ignore her as much as possible and not give her the satisfaction of thinking you are the least bit bothered or intimidated by her. Because in fact, she is probably intimidated by YOU. Height 5'8" HW 189 8/12 185 SW 8/18 176 -9 8/25 172 -4 9/01 170 -2 9/13 167 -3 Doctor weigh-in 9/17 165 -2 (20 down) 9/24 164 -1 10/01 159.5 -4.5 10/08 159.5 -0 10/15 158 -1.5 Doctor weigh-in 10/22 156 -2 10/29 155 -1 (30 pounds gone) 11/05 154 -1 11/12 152 -2 11/19 151 -1 11/26 150 -1 (35 down) 12/03 148 -2 12/10 146 -2 My body seems to like it at 146!! 1/5/05 145 (40 BIG ones) GW FINALLY!! Woohoo!

January 4th, 2005, 08:07 AM	#5 (permalink)
rockin70girl Silver Phenster Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Arizona Posts: 153 Lost Weight: 20 lbs. Current Weight: 162 Goal Weight: 134	You are so blessed to have a husband who loves you so much that he turned her down then told you what she did!! Wouldn't it feel so good to walk up to her a just beoch slap her!!! Since you probably shouldnt do that just look at her and laugh. Laugh out loud at her she made a total ***** out of herself. You are beautiful inside and out and happily married. Something she obviously is not and never will be. ~Tonie~ "In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity." -Albert Einstein Lean By Labor Day Challenge

January 4th, 2005, 08:12 AM	#6 (permalink)
beckyinvb Gold Phenster Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Virginia Beach, VA Posts: 879 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 163 Goal Weight: 145-150	She sounds like a person who has low self-esteem and has to pull stunts like that to validate herself. It's great that your husband told you too. On my way to work, I saw this saying for the longest time "he who angers you controls you." It's true. Too many people try to anger you to get a reaction. I don't like to let people have that kind of influence over my reactions, etc. Rebecca 175.5 HW-May 2004 155.5 Oct 2004 163CW 150=GW 5' 5", 40 yrs old

January 4th, 2005, 06:38 AM	#3 (permalink)
Melmin Diamond Phenster Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Florida Posts: 2,260 Lost Weight: 0lbs	First of all, you are much better off without her as a "friend". Friends do not do that. You are much better off without her in your life and even though you see her every morning ignore her, act like she doesnt even exist. So what she is skinny, she is ugly on the inside or else she wouldnt of done that to you. You are beautiful inside & out and are better off without her in your life. I am glad to hear your husband told you because that just shows you really have a honest relationship that is great!!! She is probably very jealous of your relationship also. Sorry you had to go through this. I know it really s*cks when someone you think is a friend and someone you can trust and then this happens. Just know you are better off without her in your life.

January 4th, 2005, 08:22 AM	#7 (permalink)
rockin70girl Silver Phenster Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Arizona Posts: 153 Lost Weight: 20 lbs. Current Weight: 162 Goal Weight: 134	WOW Becky It couldnt have been said any better then that!! ~Tonie~ "In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity." -Albert Einstein Lean By Labor Day Challenge

January 4th, 2005, 10:04 AM	#8 (permalink)
gila91 Gold Phenster Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 531 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 190 Goal Weight: 140	I also agree with Becky...don't let what she did control you! The next time you see this woman (I don't know if that is what I want to call her), hold your head up, put your nose up into the air, throw your shoulders back and roll your eyes! Body language says it all! She will read it. My daughter taught me how to do this LOL!!! SW 11/30/04 190 CW 04/20/05 160 GW 140

January 4th, 2005, 01:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
Bama Belle Silver Phenster Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Alabama Posts: 247 Lost Weight: 6 Current Weight: 212.5 Goal Weight: around 150	Personally, I just want to go kick her ***** for you!! What a Biotch!! HW: 218.5 Started phen 9/25 10/14 209 10/23 207.5 10/30 204.5 11/6 203 11/22 200 11/25 196.5 12/20 194 1/13 190 1/24 187

January 4th, 2005, 01:49 PM	#10 (permalink)
Christy223 Platinum Phenster Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Georgia Posts: 1,094 Lost Weight: 0.0 Current Weight: 246 Goal Weight: 170	One word "jealous"! Even when you were 35 lbs heavier she was jealous! I bet she really is BOILING now that you look so daggum HOT! Keep on losing baby!!

January 4th, 2005, 03:16 PM	#11 (permalink)
texasmom Diamond Phenster Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: S.A. Posts: 2,029 Lost Weight: started Phen Oct-04 Current Weight: 173 Goal Weight: 145	hey ladies! thanks for the awesome kind words.. its been a struggle for sure! saw her again after school during pick-up.. and well.. still wanted to strangle her! lmao.. nothings changed! oh well.. just trying to get to some level of peace with this so i wont wanna beoch slap her everytime i see her!rocking70girl too funny!! the crap we have to deal with and then on top of daily life struggles... we have people like that! amazing... thanks again for the wise words.. without even knowing her.. yall NAILED her to a TEE!! NOW i just wish she would move! oh well.............. we can only dream! 253...10/31/04... Started Phen 190...5/25/05 and got stuck 4ever 184...12/31/05 finally its movin' 180...1/4/06 175...1/11/06 173...1/20/06 171...1/27/06 169...2/1/06 165...3/3/06 168...3/30/06 175...5/1/06 YIKES! 173...5/9/06 *180...6/6/06

January 4th, 2005, 03:22 PM	#12 (permalink)
texasmom Diamond Phenster Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: S.A. Posts: 2,029 Lost Weight: started Phen Oct-04 Current Weight: 173 Goal Weight: 145	OH and Tia.. That was my COMPLETE motivation for losing.. and well still is................. makes me more and more determined! amazing.. where we finally pull the strength from to get this done! thanks.. 253...10/31/04... Started Phen 190...5/25/05 and got stuck 4ever 184...12/31/05 finally its movin' 180...1/4/06 175...1/11/06 173...1/20/06 171...1/27/06 169...2/1/06 165...3/3/06 168...3/30/06 175...5/1/06 YIKES! 173...5/9/06 *180...6/6/06

January 4th, 2005, 03:34 PM	#13 (permalink)
Amy T Plateau'ed phenster Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,659 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 200 Goal Weight: 190	TXMom.. You got awesome words of wisdom already, I just wanted to tell you I think your doing great and her insecurities can't hurt you! Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground!

January 4th, 2005, 03:53 PM	#14 (permalink)
Down2it Bronze Phenster Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Calif. Posts: 99 Lost Weight: 54 lbs. lost Current Weight: 184 Goal Weight: 130 reached	Hiya TXMom :0) In my life I have seen MANY people who can only feel good about themselves if they make someone else feel bad! She is one of them....sounds like she has very low self esteem. She must be perceiving you as a threat now that you are getting thin (since you've always been a cutie!)..that was the one thing she had over on you and now she's losing it...in all other areas you so far surpass her it probably makes her teeth ache! In your situation I doubt I'd ever stop being angry with her..she's a slime and I wouldn't trust her as far as I could fling her scrawny little rear! Well, you know what they say..living well is the best revenge..I would just make sure she sees how ABSOLUTELY in love and happy you and your hubby are...that ought to keep her stewing for a while! At 184 At 130 At 184 At 130 Ht. 5'9" SW 184 CW after one month on Phen 170 CW after 2 months on Phen 159 CW after 3 months 150 CW After 3 mon, 3wks...145 CW After 4 mon, 2 weeks....reached my 1st goal..138!!! Feb 05...135 April '05..130 yippee

January 4th, 2005, 04:35 PM	#15 (permalink)
doubletrouble Bronze Phenster Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 31 Lost Weight: 11 Current Weight: 206 Goal Weight: 140	Women have more b*lls than most men. I had a similar situation happen to me. I think you should turn your anger into a happy, in your face gloat that says - press on - my husband doesn't want you. That says a lot for him and your marriage! You are beautiful and should concentrate on positive energy. This biatch is pure NEGATIVE energy. I would just look at her when she boo hooed and say, "God, your life is pretty sad," then smile and switch and wiggle your butt as much as you can!!! HA Start Weight: 206 Week One: 199 Week Two: 195 Week Three: 195 (Time of Month)