[shirleyb]

Hi,
Ages ago I posted that my daughter had problems with her b/f, well since then they have broken up. But shes found since she had been going out with him for 4 years she had lost touch with any friends she had at school. They now have moved away or have b/fs themselves. Well what I was wondering Two things actually, was what can I do for her birthday? She is so down at the moment. Her 21st isn't till December but I want to start planning something. Any suggestions? Also Has anyone else gone through this? After a long term relationship? How do or did you get back into the social scene again?

[missus]

Hey Shirley, girl, 21 is magic. First of all, I want to tell you I luv the pics girl. And check out hubby, with the shaved head, about it now. And you are very attractive young lady.

Second, on the birthday girl, maybe rent a limo and call up a couple of her friends and surprise her. YOu only need 2 or 3. If I think of something else, will holla at you.

BTW, tell her kudos for dropping that big problem.

KNow you are proud of her.

BTW, good going on the weight loss girl.

Missus

[MistyShell]

Shirley,

I think you should try to get in touch with one or two of her CLOSEST friends. Do you know anyone that she's kept in touch with? Then, take her out for a girl's nite out...similar to what missus suggested. The 21st birthday should be memorable!

Misty

[beth99]

I just wanted to say that I was in a really bad relationship for years. I lost touch with ALL of my friends. I got out of the realtionship, and my true friends were still there waiting for me, even though I had ditched them for years.

I just started calling them and hanging out with them, I think they know I was sorry for the time spent away from them. But as of now, most of my friends are out of college, got serious boyfriends, etc. and now I am married. I don't really spend the time with them that I should.

But I just had to let my friends know that I realize I did not treat them like true friends while in the bad relationship. They were forgiving, and starting spending time with me again. Just letting them know I was sorry helped a ton!

[shirleyb]

Thanks Guys, Its so good to hear other advice, missus thanks for the compliments. She is alot happier without that drop kick.

[EBONY POETESS]

slowly but surely get her back into the scene
This is the time to be her friend not just her mother
Go to the mall with her on a saturday when alot of cute guys are there.
Take her to social gatherings with friends that have sons her age
As for her birthday by december she'll probaly be back in love again She's young and beautiful and she has her life ahead of her.
Hell by 21 I was married but I sure wish I had experienced more with my youth.She shouldn't focus so much on her loss of her guy but a brand new beggining to meeting new friends and guys.
But if she is not in love by then have her a birthday party at a nice club setting that plays her kind of music.Invite friends from her job and young ones from yours and family.Make it a suprise