OT: anyone from virginia?? help!

[Harper]

I am trying to find my brother's girlfriend. She's pregnant and due any day now. They broke up a few months ago and my brother can't find her. All I know is that they live on a military base and her dad is in the marines. He's a captain and his name is Jose Rodriguez but he goes by David. Do you know where I could start? Do you know the names of any marines/ military bases in Virginia? We just want to find out if she's had the baby yet or not. TIA!

Angie

[Eva got-a-big-ole-butt]

Virginia has many:

Quantico
&
Norfolk
are the 2 biggies in VA

Check the miliary hospitals that serve the area
don't know the names of the VA ones but she
might have had or is having the baby in DC/MD too. . .

Andrews AFB MD (Malcom Grow Medical Center)* that's where I delivered my oldest
Bethesda MD (Bethesda Naval Hospital)
Washington DC (Walter Reed Army Hospital)

Good Luck Sweetie!


[ August 18, 2004, 12:24 PM: Message edited by: Eva got-a-big-ole-butt ]

[Harper]

thanks Eva! I hope we find her soon!

Angie

[Melmin]

Angie,

I dont know but I just wanted to say I do hope you find her soon!!!

Wish I could help!!

[Bex Skinny Now]

Depends on what end of Virginia they were in. Quantico, which they may have delivered in a military hospital such as Bethesda or Walter Reed, or if they were in Norfolk area, Portsmouth Naval Hospital. As far as calling there and inquiring about the delivery, I DOUBT seriously they would give that info out over the phone, due to HIPAA privacy policy. I wish you luck tho.

[Eva got-a-big-ole-butt]

Bex's right - you may be at least able to find where the family is & attempt to contact the girl's father.

Depending on the situation though (age of the girl, how long they were together/why they broke up) the family may not want contact with you or your brother

I hate to scare you with this but is there the possiblity that she's putting the baby up for adoption?

[Harper]

Thanks Ladies! I've tried to look up the phone number but it came up with so many possibile numbers that it would take me all day to find them. I wouldn't attempt to contact her doctor because I know they wouldn't give me that info.

Eva, the situation is that she's 20, my brother is 19, and it was an accidental pregnancy. They had a big argument and basicly she made the comment to some folks that it wasn't his baby. (Don't know if that's tru or just said out of anger.)Regardless, her parents blame him for getting her pregnant even tho they were OBVIOUSLY BOTH there. They don't want her to contact him but she still does but blocks her number so he couldn't possibly call her back. He hasn't heard from her in about 2 weeks. She's not giving the baby up for sure. She wants to give it my bro's last name but her parents say they'll kick her out if she does. Drama, Drama.

[Eva got-a-big-ole-butt]

That's terrible!

Sounds like her parents need a reality check. Last time I recall 90% of the birth control out there is designed for the female to use

I'm sorry to hear about your dilemma - hopefully she will have the right mindset & be sure to put HIS name as the father on the baby's birth certificate - then he will at least some rights to visit the child - but also he has the responsibilty of providing child support as well.

Hopefully he's got a good head on his shoulders (Why not? He's got a great sis looking out for him ) and will not let this child go without knowing his/her Daddy.



[ August 18, 2004, 05:42 PM: Message edited by: Eva got-a-big-ole-butt ]

[Harper]

I found an email address for her and let her know that we were wanting to hear how she was doing and told her to call or email me if she needs anything. I still haven't heard from her but I don't know how often she has access to a computer these days. I'll letcha know.

I'd like to think my brother would be responsible enough to pay child support and step up. But I think he's wondering what the big deal is about putting his name on the birth cert if he's really the father. I guess that'll be in the back of his mind until he's convinced otherwise.

Thanks for the help.

[kenswoobie]

Hey Harper, is there any update on your brother's girlfriend? Did you want to talk to her father if you got the number. It's not that difficult for Marines to find other Marines. Also you can try calling the maternity wards in the military bases in Va. just in case she just had the baby. If you ask for her they will just put you through to her room. You might just get lucky that way. Let me know if you wanted to speak to her dad and wanted me to try to get his work number for you.- I hope everything works out for the best.
Jae

[Harper]

Jae,

No I didn't really want to talk to her Dad. I don't want to cause any problems. I was just really tring to find out any information that I could about if she's had the baby or when they thought she might. My brother said he'd like to go up there and be there for the birth (his girlfriend would like that too- I read an email from her to him yesterday), but he doesn't know exactly where she is and she thinks it would only cause problems with her family. They said she would no longer be able to live with them if she had anything else to do with him and that she is NOT going to put his name on the birth certificate, that he will NEVER see the child, but they're intending on going after child support from him. I just don't get people sometimes. My brother is heartbroken and my parents are too.
Anywho, I have sent her an email and I'm wating for a response. Otherwise, I guess she'll just call him when she gets another chance.

Thanks anyway,
Angie

[kenswoobie]

That's too bad that her parents feel that way. Why try to exclude a parent who wants to be part of his childs life. As for going after child support, surely there will be a paternity test and visitation rights to go along with that. Keep and print out those emails that she sends you. Your brother may need them later. I wish him luck .
Jae