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runs with scissors · June 9th, 2004, 04:38 PM

I live with my dad. I originally moved in to get through school, but JUST as I got done school he got laid off from his job at the paper mill in town. So, I've stayed and continued to pay his utility bills so he doesn't go under. My dad is LAZY. I literally spend my days off cleaning, cleaning and cleaning some more. Since becoming jobless in Jauary the man has done the dishes 3 times, yet has found the time to make a permanent indent of his ***** on the couch. I of course have done them countless times. I've kept up with all my cleaing except one thing I recently stopped doing....dishes. I HATE doing the dishes. We don't live in the 21st...or 20th century for that matter because we don't have a dishwasher. So, I'm leaving them. They can ROT for all I care. I'm done doing dishes! I will eat takeout from now on if that's what it comes to. We've got 4 forks left, 2 butter knives, no bowls and he's only got one coffee cup. I'M ON STRIKE! GOOD LUCK, POP!

missus · June 9th, 2004, 04:54 PM

Good for you Bethany. I had to go on strike in the beginning. Now, I have full cooperation.

Missus

BE BLESSED

Heaven Sent · June 9th, 2004, 04:59 PM

I have done that a million times, only with my hubby and kids. Hopefully your dad will get the picture better then they did.

Eva got-a-big-ole-butt · June 9th, 2004, 05:22 PM

No need for YOU to suffer, Bethany!

Invest in paper plates & plastic utensils (hidden in your room)

That's what my family eats off of - I rarely break out the dishes (I hate cleaning them & I HAVE a dishwasher!)

Anae · June 9th, 2004, 05:34 PM

I'm on strike too! Heh, too bad I live alone, all the dishes are my fault!

Ted · June 9th, 2004, 10:48 PM

What about father's day coming up? Pick your battles...poor dad will probably leave them all and wait for the "big day" and ask you to wash them all! lol

Blippo · June 10th, 2004, 12:36 AM

It seemed people use to do that in the olden ages. Men brought home the cash, cut the grass. Women stayed home, cooked and cleaned, etc.If your dad is fairly young and all the other ladies on this forum that say their husband/boyfriend act that way, they should promptly kick their husband/boyfriend in the @ss and you should go on strike.

missus · June 10th, 2004, 03:00 AM

Blippo, good point

Eva, great idea girl. YOu come up with some very good ideas.

Hope you get some relief Bethany.

Missus

BE BLESSED

LoveToWalk · June 10th, 2004, 03:07 AM

Hold your ground. I've done that before only to freak out over the mess and spend the entire day cleaning the kitchen. I feel your pain though. It's hard to do all the domestic work when the others aren't contributing in some other way.

I just don't understand why "the others" can't help out.

MotherLunsford · June 10th, 2004, 04:16 AM

I have a nice, almost brand new dishwasher, and I quit using it, except for dire necessity, a long time ago. Nothing irks me more than to leave the sink clean at night, and get up in the morning to dirty dishes which have spontaneously erupted overnight! The Kitchen Slave was emancipated a LONG time ago. BtB wants me to cook, he had better get that new kitchen built! (My kitchen is the size of a small walk-in closet, so small that the refrigerator has to be in a different room!)

Oh, and while I am thinking of it, get your Dad an appt. with the doctor or local mental health clinic. He is a prime candidate for anti-depressants.

Keep it just clean enough to keep out the vermin. And if YOU have to clean something more than once, and it can be, pack it away. Out of sight can't be used or dirtied!

Mother

Melmin · June 10th, 2004, 04:22 AM

If my dad was still alive I would definetly not mind doing the dishes and taking care of him every day of my life. I know it is annoying to you but when he is gone you will wish he was here and would do anything for him.

I know you might not see my point to this because you still have you father because believe me when my dad was alive there were things that bothered me about him and I stopped doing alot of things because of that but now I realize that I really wished I didnt.

Just wanted to mention that.

[ June 10, 2004, 09:23 AM: Message edited by: Melmin ]

Amy T · June 10th, 2004, 06:52 AM

Bethany--How is the strike going.. it would make me nuts.. Id invest in paper plates and plastic utensils (paper plates RULE my house!)

Melmin--I see your point. Its difficult to not appreciate your point, and I know things are tough for you right now and I REALLY hope they get better!

ThinJen · June 10th, 2004, 07:36 AM

I go on strike all the time, only to what Mother said, get frustrated and end up spending a whole day in the house cleaning until I am done. I just can't stand it after a certain point, I guessI am a little compulsive about cleaning. But I have small kids, so I think it's important. If it was my dad like you, I'd have to try and stick it out and be stubborn.

-mekinism- · June 10th, 2004, 07:48 AM

well hey, dad took care of you for what? at LEAST a good 10 years .... well... if he did that kinda stuff....goodness knows i do....and cali does..

maybe someday my kids will take care of me. =) that'll be the life. lol.

=M=

Determined1-- derland here I come · June 10th, 2004, 07:49 AM

I went on strike years ago and my house is still a mess. You don't teach them any lessons, you just teach them it is ok to be triflin.

califmtbguy · June 10th, 2004, 07:51 AM

My initial thought is how do you do the dishes without a dishwasher?

Second, did you issue a proclamation letter? Verbally stating your intentions is a recipe for miscommunication. By putting your grievance in writing both side will know there the other stands. Much easier to negotiate that way. Are you going to picket or simply stage a walk-out?

June 9th, 2004, 04:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
runs with scissors Running with Scissors Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Offical Trailer Park of the U.S. Posts: 1,729 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 170 Goal Weight: 145	I live with my dad. I originally moved in to get through school, but JUST as I got done school he got laid off from his job at the paper mill in town. So, I've stayed and continued to pay his utility bills so he doesn't go under. My dad is LAZY. I literally spend my days off cleaning, cleaning and cleaning some more. Since becoming jobless in Jauary the man has done the dishes 3 times, yet has found the time to make a permanent indent of his ***** on the couch. I of course have done them countless times. I've kept up with all my cleaing except one thing I recently stopped doing....dishes. I HATE doing the dishes. We don't live in the 21st...or 20th century for that matter because we don't have a dishwasher. So, I'm leaving them. They can ROT for all I care. I'm done doing dishes! I will eat takeout from now on if that's what it comes to. We've got 4 forks left, 2 butter knives, no bowls and he's only got one coffee cup. I'M ON STRIKE! GOOD LUCK, POP! If you keep on going the way you're going you'll end up where you're heading - which direction are you aiming for? GW: 145 12/29:183 3/23: 170 3/29: 169 4/05: 167 4/12: 166 4/19: 166 TOM, so leave me alone! 4/26: 165 5/3: 163 5/17: 160 6/21: 162 7/12: 159 yeaaah, baby! 7/28: 164 I hope i left my appetite in San Fran

June 9th, 2004, 04:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
missus Purple People Eater Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,383 Lost Weight: 5 Current Weight: 215 lbs Goal Weight: 200	Good for you Bethany. I had to go on strike in the beginning. Now, I have full cooperation. Missus BE BLESSED Hard work has made it easy. That is my secret. That is why I win. -Nadia Comaneci

June 9th, 2004, 10:48 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ted Silver Phenster Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Atlanta Posts: 338 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 202 Goal Weight: 160	What about father's day coming up? Pick your battles...poor dad will probably leave them all and wait for the "big day" and ask you to wash them all! lol [IMG]http://www.hometown.*****com/hlrdh/images/ted51.jpg[/IMG] 5'9 HW- 207 SW- 202 3/15/04 - 196.5 3/29 (-5.5 lbs) - 193.5 4/11 (-8.5) - 188.0 5/3 - 184.0 6/5 - 181.0 6/23 - 179.0 7/10 - 176.0 8/7 (-26.0 lbs)

June 10th, 2004, 03:00 AM	#8 (permalink)
missus Purple People Eater Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,383 Lost Weight: 5 Current Weight: 215 lbs Goal Weight: 200	Blippo, good point Eva, great idea girl. YOu come up with some very good ideas. Hope you get some relief Bethany. Missus BE BLESSED Hard work has made it easy. That is my secret. That is why I win. -Nadia Comaneci

June 10th, 2004, 06:52 AM	#12 (permalink)
Amy T Plateau'ed phenster Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,659 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 200 Goal Weight: 190	Bethany--How is the strike going.. it would make me nuts.. Id invest in paper plates and plastic utensils (paper plates RULE my house!) Melmin--I see your point. Its difficult to not appreciate your point, and I know things are tough for you right now and I REALLY hope they get better! Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground!

June 9th, 2004, 04:59 PM	#3 (permalink)
Heaven Sent Genius is nothing but a great aptitude for patience. George-Louis de Buffon Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Charlotte, nc Posts: 5,701 Lost Weight: 65 Current Weight: 196 Goal Weight: 165	I have done that a million times, only with my hubby and kids. Hopefully your dad will get the picture better then they did.

June 9th, 2004, 05:22 PM	#4 (permalink)
Eva got-a-big-ole-butt Brunette BarbieDoll Phenster! Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Annapolis,MD Posts: 3,294 Lost Weight: 95 Current Weight: 155 Goal Weight: 135	No need for YOU to suffer, Bethany! Invest in paper plates & plastic utensils (hidden in your room) That's what my family eats off of - I rarely break out the dishes (I hate cleaning them & I HAVE a dishwasher!)

June 9th, 2004, 05:34 PM	#5 (permalink)
Anae Woman at large Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Michigan Posts: 870 Lost Weight: 0lbs Goal Weight: 180	I'm on strike too! Heh, too bad I live alone, all the dishes are my fault!

June 10th, 2004, 12:36 AM	#7 (permalink)
Blippo Platinum Phenster Join Date: May 2002 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 2,588 Lost Weight: was 215 lbs Current Weight: 171 Goal Weight: 165	It seemed people use to do that in the olden ages. Men brought home the cash, cut the grass. Women stayed home, cooked and cleaned, etc.If your dad is fairly young and all the other ladies on this forum that say their husband/boyfriend act that way, they should promptly kick their husband/boyfriend in the @ss and you should go on strike.

June 10th, 2004, 03:07 AM	#9 (permalink)
LoveToWalk Bronze Phenster Join Date: May 2004 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 62 Lost Weight: 35 Current Weight: 150 Goal Weight: 130	Hold your ground. I've done that before only to freak out over the mess and spend the entire day cleaning the kitchen. I feel your pain though. It's hard to do all the domestic work when the others aren't contributing in some other way. I just don't understand why "the others" can't help out.

June 10th, 2004, 04:16 AM	#10 (permalink)
MotherLunsford Platinum Phenster Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Foothills of the Ozarks Posts: 2,528 Lost Weight: 32 Current Weight: 172 Goal Weight: 120 lbs.	I have a nice, almost brand new dishwasher, and I quit using it, except for dire necessity, a long time ago. Nothing irks me more than to leave the sink clean at night, and get up in the morning to dirty dishes which have spontaneously erupted overnight! The Kitchen Slave was emancipated a LONG time ago. BtB wants me to cook, he had better get that new kitchen built! (My kitchen is the size of a small walk-in closet, so small that the refrigerator has to be in a different room!) Oh, and while I am thinking of it, get your Dad an appt. with the doctor or local mental health clinic. He is a prime candidate for anti-depressants. Keep it just clean enough to keep out the vermin. And if YOU have to clean something more than once, and it can be, pack it away. Out of sight can't be used or dirtied! Mother

June 10th, 2004, 04:22 AM	#11 (permalink)
Melmin Diamond Phenster Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Florida Posts: 2,260 Lost Weight: 0lbs	If my dad was still alive I would definetly not mind doing the dishes and taking care of him every day of my life. I know it is annoying to you but when he is gone you will wish he was here and would do anything for him. I know you might not see my point to this because you still have you father because believe me when my dad was alive there were things that bothered me about him and I stopped doing alot of things because of that but now I realize that I really wished I didnt. Just wanted to mention that. [ June 10, 2004, 09:23 AM: Message edited by: Melmin ]

June 10th, 2004, 07:36 AM	#13 (permalink)
ThinJen Gold Phenster Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: South Carolina Posts: 1,630 Lost Weight: 82 pounds Current Weight: 167 Goal Weight: 120	I go on strike all the time, only to what Mother said, get frustrated and end up spending a whole day in the house cleaning until I am done. I just can't stand it after a certain point, I guessI am a little compulsive about cleaning. But I have small kids, so I think it's important. If it was my dad like you, I'd have to try and stick it out and be stubborn. HW-236 SW-178 CW-168 GW-130

June 10th, 2004, 07:48 AM	#14 (permalink)
-mekinism- Silver Phenster Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 1,122 Lost Weight: 0lbs	well hey, dad took care of you for what? at LEAST a good 10 years .... well... if he did that kinda stuff....goodness knows i do....and cali does.. maybe someday my kids will take care of me. =) that'll be the life. lol. =M=

June 10th, 2004, 07:49 AM	#15 (permalink)
Determined1-- derland here I come Chocolate-a-holic Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Maryland Posts: 3,263 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 218.4 Goal Weight: 175	I went on strike years ago and my house is still a mess. You don't teach them any lessons, you just teach them it is ok to be triflin.

June 10th, 2004, 07:51 AM	#16 (permalink)
califmtbguy Dude.....Where's my bike??? Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: California Posts: 2,032 Lost Weight: 10 Pounds Current Weight: 235 Goal Weight: 220	My initial thought is how do you do the dishes without a dishwasher? Second, did you issue a proclamation letter? Verbally stating your intentions is a recipe for miscommunication. By putting your grievance in writing both side will know there the other stands. Much easier to negotiate that way. Are you going to picket or simply stage a walk-out?