Im having a panic attack too....

[mommy of twins]

Sorry about this, but Lil Ky, I posted in your post and I didnt want to retype it here. Just wanted to give ya'll an update on the ORIGINAL hott guy.. the one who told me he wanted me to lose weight back in September. I have a headache. Anyway... its in her post. Im lazy today.

mer

[BrandiSCollins8]

uhhhhh Mer....Is this where I smack you and tell you to snap out of it, or be happy for you?? I'm a bit confused.....

Do you really want this? I mean really really?? If so, then WOOOOHOOOOO!! But think long and hard about it.....or atleast say you have so I'll feel better. Nothin but love for ya girl.....(sg2sg)

[mommy of twins]

Im still in the process of thinking about it. Tough decision.

[BrandiSCollins8]

phew.....I feel better now.....I won't blab my long drawn out opinion.....but would you like to borrow my husband for a week or so.....it may shed some light on it all And I wouldn't mind lending him for a bit

[Keew]

I agree with Brandi when she says...

Is this where I smack you and tell you to snap out of it, or be happy for you?? I'm a bit confused.....

I'm glad your taking your time ot think about it. If he loves you and the girls and really wants you there, he'll wait for you to make a long thought out decision.

[mommy of twins]

I you guys...

[icandoit1234]

Hey Mer-- Well here are my 2 cents...Please be careful!Make sure hes serious about his recovery and being a good role model for your girls. But I know youll make the right decision. Do I sound like mother hen? I dont want to, but I have been around a lot of addictsin my life and just want you to be careful.

[MD2004]

Hi Mer -
My .02 - RED FLAG #1 you said that he and his mother want you there to 'help him stay clean'. That is not a very good reason - and a bad way to start a codependent relationship. Remember you have two beautiful daughters and you owe it to them to think this through - I feel so strongly about you not moving in that I am nearly in tears. Starting to see him again is great moving in with him not so great- Serioulsy you are a knock out - your girls are to die for - and you have much more potential then 'taking care' of someone. Please think this through - if he is going to stay clean for the rest of his life then he needs to do the majority of the work on his own for himself - not because you are going to be there to check up on him. I hope I am not being too harsh but as you can see - my opinion is to stay where you are being a great mother to your two precious girls - you are doing what you need to do to make a better life for them. OK - I will shut up now. Let us know what you decide - will be thinking about you.

[ March 31, 2003, 05:05 PM: Message edited by: MD2004 ]

[suz1]

Mer - I know I don;t know you well at all but I just wanted to posts and tell you that I can imagine what a hard decision this is going to be ~The main thing that caught my attention in your posts is that he wants you around to help keep him clean ~ That worries me because you cannot depend on someone else to do that you have to want that for yourself and although I am sure he does the fact that he is already thinking that he needs you around sounds alittle codependant to me From all your posts I have read you seem to be doing such a great job with raising your kids and work that you just need to think about if you have it in you to also add another person to take care of in that mix - You deserve to be taken care of This needs to be a two way street for both of you - your taken care of also ~ I will keep you in my prayers and know you will make the right decision for you and your girls - Keep us posted One more thing is if he is truly rehabilitated this time and it is meant to be it will happen in its own time - so just take it slow and if its in the cards it will all take care of itself

[ April 01, 2003, 10:45 AM: Message edited by: suz ]