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GINNY · May 28th, 2003, 07:45 AM

Well in the past 2-3 years I have come here for my weight loss efforts for support and it was wonderful. Now it seems like its less encouragement. I can remember when people would post their weight loss and they would get so much encouragement and praise. Im not being a baby or anything but I guess things change.I have had my weight loss posted since yesterday and have only had 2 replies and I appreciate the ones who cares and encourages the others its wonderful oh well this site isnt how it used to be and thats my opinion. BUt opinions are like ***** holes ever body has one.

Sandye · May 28th, 2003, 08:02 AM

Ginny,

I have been around for a long time, but take blocks of time off every year due to work considerations. This site has grown very quickly, and new friendships form every year while I am away. I feel like a newbie! People do not respond to me, either, but that's okay. I remember you, but perhaps some others don't. Hang in there ... I will give you a big WOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOO on the weight loss. Continue to do what you are doing - and do it for yourself. If you need encouragement - PM me! I will be glad to give you a pat on the back!

GINNY · May 28th, 2003, 08:07 AM

Thank you so much Sandye, I appreciate it so so much I really do.

health4life · May 28th, 2003, 08:16 AM

Ok. These post move so quickly. I respond to alot and I miss alot. If u dont get responses just BUMP the post up to the top of the page. I dont look at every single post. But if I see one that say..woohoo I lost,etc. I make it my buisness to try and get in there and give it a thumbs up.

Congrats on your weightloss thus far and keep up the goodwork

[ May 28, 2003, 01:17 PM: Message edited by: health4life ]

galaxygrrl · May 28th, 2003, 08:19 AM

Ginny,

I'm sorry I did not post either since it means a lot to you. There are a lot of posts and I miss some and I catch some.

10 pounds is great!!!!! keep it up.

cheers,

Beth

Ms Kitty · May 28th, 2003, 07:18 PM

Ginny,

I post from work in between tasks and on my lunchbreak. Sometimes I miss posts, I'm sorry you didn't receive many replies. Congratulations on your loss.

Deb

analyst · May 29th, 2003, 02:38 AM

No, it's not like it used to be. I definately agree with you.

But remember, it's all in what we make of it.

Look at the posts. There are two days worth of threads on the first page. It used to be that you would post a topic, and hope that it didn't get pushed back to page two because of all the activity.

I don't think that it's due to the new influx of phreinds. Because if that was the case, we would have a lot more posts.

I think a lot of it has to do with all of the different thread sections. When the site was 're-orgainzed' into topical compartments (instead of the all-for-one posting area), many of the phriends went their separate ways. Some went into the challenge, some in the cruise, some in the newbie section, etc.

Anyway, that's my opinion. I think some phriends have other supports systems outside of this place as well. I'm sure they are still here, but just like you and me, not posting as often because of the same feeling.

I'm sure it will turn around. Everything goes in cycles. It's just a matter of breaking that cycle.

EDITED BECAUSE I FORGOT TO SAY: Good job on the weight loss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ May 29, 2003, 07:41 AM: Message edited by: analyst ]

mommy of twins · May 29th, 2003, 03:50 AM

I was on vacation in FLA, but wanted to pop in and say way to go!! And youre right about the site........ lol.........

suz1 · May 29th, 2003, 04:38 AM

I just wanted to say that I have been around awhile on this site and although it may not seem the same to some of you I just want to add that I come here for encouragement and support and I do get that and then sometimes just posting my topic and typing in what I am having problems with or how happy I am with the weight loss I have accomplished so far gives me the little boost that I need

I try to posts and give others encouragement and just wanted to say that it is kinda like when you were in highschool - you will take away from a experience what you are willing to deal with and so I just try to give encouragement and get some for myself now and then and all the rest is just .............not even worth giving my valueable time to

I hope you all continue to give support when it is needed and just give the other stuff no responses~ Ok now that I said that and realized that I am posting on this topic

but just wanted to explain my feelings about this issue and will not address it again hopefully

KeliKK · May 29th, 2003, 04:48 AM

I have been here for 3 yrs now.
Its not that I dont care as much as I used to.
I just dont have the time anymore.
I used to be the starter of tredders and shedders, EVERYDAY. and I dont even comit to that anymore because I know I cant make it here everyday. I dont even post my workout everyday anymore. this new server that I have takes forever to move from page to page on the internet, so I dont spend as much time here.
so maybe everyone is just busier, its not that they dont care....

BebeMom · May 29th, 2003, 05:28 AM

Hiya Ginny! You are exactly right, it is not the same here. I do remember you just like it was yesterday. You had that goodlookin hunk of a man as your avatar, from uglypeople.com Right?

and it listed you from : In the holler. But then you went away for a while or I think we were posting at different times.
I also don't hang out like I used to but still float in just to see what's goin on.
I can remember when I first found this site. I lived here, I spent more time here than I did at home (LOL) and I am coming up on my 1 year anniversary as a registered member. When I started feeling out of place I started hanging out in the challenges but it seemed that hardly noone wanted to give support on the main forum but you can definately get it from there.
I'm not bad mouthing anyone, it's just not the same and I understand that b/c no 2 people are the same so when someone leaves and a new member joins, it adds something new to the group.
I don't think anyone can honestly say that they are in the same place in their life as they were a year ago or 2 years ago.

Congrats on the weightloss. I know every bit counts and it is such a struggle on a daily basis that we all do need the encouragement.

GINNY · May 29th, 2003, 05:38 AM

Thank you all so much really, I didnt mean to sound like Im pouting but BEBE is right I used to be on the Phen site all the time to it was the place to come when you needed advice, a pat on the back, or a good laugh.Its still a good site dont get me wrong I guess its just different thats all.

health4life · May 29th, 2003, 06:43 AM

To be honest in the time that I have been here I can honestly say that yes things are not the same. But I cant say that its much different either

I remember fussing fighting and cussing way before I even thought about joining. But I looked passed that. Joined and loved it.Even got in a few myself. But hey life goes on. Hell I have had arguments with my husband but the next minute laughing and joking as if it never happened. Not often but my point is there will be disagreements as well. I dont hold grudges and I sure as heck will let u know when u have rubbed me the wrong way. Take it or leave it. THIS IS ME

I will admit I lose my appetite from time to time.More so now than before. But what keeps me here is the same thing that made me want to join. Advice, tips, support and motivation.

I have learned alot in my time here about life and the differences in people. It makes you appreciate your life and the things that u have accomplished I tell ya that. THANKFUL as I would like to put it. I am truly blessed.

The holidays and weekends are slow. But hey what can we do about it. I try and look at the good in this and try not to concentrate on the negative thoughts as far as the board being slow and people not wanting to be here.

Whats good about that I think is more people are moving on,getting out for once in their life and finally feeling good about themselves.

If someone wants to leave because the board just aint the same. Let them leave. Thats how I feel about the situation. This board will be here with us or without us. Just look at all the new people that have joined just recently. So I dont believe that because some are gone then the board will fail or become something different.

The newbies are more talkative I see and thats a good thing. Lately they have just been jumping in on post and being supportive,helpful and all the above

So to all the new folks that just joined KEEP ON KEEPING ON Do your thang

No matter whats going on around you.

I am here quite a bit and thats only because I'm home most of the time working. My computer stay online for days. So i'm able to pop in and out as I choose to and not all can be here as much. To post post away. For those that come and the board is slow READ up on all those old post.

As far as support I give it and I get it. If I miss a topic I try not to feel too bad about it because of how much I post. I know its possible to miss it. I feel that people do get tired of seeing the same few people giving advice all the time. I think we have alot of variety here and it should show. Not just in our opinions and beliefs about life.

Now what gets me is when everyone is stuck in one topic and not welcoming people or giving advice.
That happens ALOT here. Can I get an AMEN ?

Now dont get me wrong I talk ALOT and i'm in alot of post that go on and on and on. But theres one thing no one can say is that i'm not supportive or helpful during those time

But what is basicly boils down to is U GET WHAT U GIVE. If u are giving nothing u will get NOTHING

I just do what I can do and dont worry about the rest. This is what has been on my mind lately.
Not for any one person. Just my thoughts

[ May 29, 2003, 11:52 AM: Message edited by: health4life ]

slowfoot · May 29th, 2003, 06:46 AM

Amen!

May 28th, 2003, 07:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
GINNY Platinum Phenster Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: W. Va Posts: 1,319 Lost Weight: 0lbs Goal Weight: 199.9	Well in the past 2-3 years I have come here for my weight loss efforts for support and it was wonderful. Now it seems like its less encouragement. I can remember when people would post their weight loss and they would get so much encouragement and praise. Im not being a baby or anything but I guess things change.I have had my weight loss posted since yesterday and have only had 2 replies and I appreciate the ones who cares and encourages the others its wonderful oh well this site isnt how it used to be and thats my opinion. BUt opinions are like ***** holes ever body has one. I just want out of the 200 weight range.

May 28th, 2003, 08:02 AM	#2 (permalink)
Sandye Voice of Wisdom Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,305 Lost Weight: 20 Current Weight: 131 Goal Weight: 125	Ginny, I have been around for a long time, but take blocks of time off every year due to work considerations. This site has grown very quickly, and new friendships form every year while I am away. I feel like a newbie! People do not respond to me, either, but that's okay. I remember you, but perhaps some others don't. Hang in there ... I will give you a big WOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOO on the weight loss. Continue to do what you are doing - and do it for yourself. If you need encouragement - PM me! I will be glad to give you a pat on the back! All you can do is the best you can do ... but the best you can do is enough.

May 28th, 2003, 08:07 AM	#3 (permalink)
GINNY Platinum Phenster Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: W. Va Posts: 1,319 Lost Weight: 0lbs Goal Weight: 199.9	Thank you so much Sandye, I appreciate it so so much I really do. I just want out of the 200 weight range.

May 28th, 2003, 08:19 AM	#5 (permalink)
galaxygrrl Silver Phenster Join Date: May 2003 Location: On a hill overlooking San Francisco Bay Posts: 393 Lost Weight: 251.5 Current Weight: 149 Goal Weight: 135	Ginny, I'm sorry I did not post either since it means a lot to you. There are a lot of posts and I miss some and I catch some. 10 pounds is great!!!!! keep it up. cheers, Beth SW:252 CW:149 GW:135

May 28th, 2003, 07:18 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ms Kitty Gold Phenster Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 732 Lost Weight: 34.32 Current Weight: 197.12 Goal Weight: 184.8	Ginny, I post from work in between tasks and on my lunchbreak. Sometimes I miss posts, I'm sorry you didn't receive many replies. Congratulations on your loss. Deb SW: 228.8 CW: 197.12 GW: 184.8 Lost forever: 31.68 I shall pass this way but once, any good or kindness therefore, that I can do or show to any being, let me do it now, for I shall not pass this way again.

May 28th, 2003, 08:16 AM	#4 (permalink)
health4life I AM WILLING TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO LIVE A HEALTHY SLIMMER LIFE Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: florida Posts: 6,748 Lost Weight: 98 lbs Current Weight: 170 lbs Goal Weight: 150	Ok. These post move so quickly. I respond to alot and I miss alot. If u dont get responses just BUMP the post up to the top of the page. I dont look at every single post. But if I see one that say..woohoo I lost,etc. I make it my buisness to try and get in there and give it a thumbs up. Congrats on your weightloss thus far and keep up the goodwork [ May 28, 2003, 01:17 PM: Message edited by: health4life ]

May 29th, 2003, 02:38 AM	#7 (permalink)
analyst Gold Phenster Join Date: May 2002 Location: Yuba City Posts: 1,378 Lost Weight: 0lbs Goal Weight: 138	No, it's not like it used to be. I definately agree with you. But remember, it's all in what we make of it. Look at the posts. There are two days worth of threads on the first page. It used to be that you would post a topic, and hope that it didn't get pushed back to page two because of all the activity. I don't think that it's due to the new influx of phreinds. Because if that was the case, we would have a lot more posts. I think a lot of it has to do with all of the different thread sections. When the site was 're-orgainzed' into topical compartments (instead of the all-for-one posting area), many of the phriends went their separate ways. Some went into the challenge, some in the cruise, some in the newbie section, etc. Anyway, that's my opinion. I think some phriends have other supports systems outside of this place as well. I'm sure they are still here, but just like you and me, not posting as often because of the same feeling. I'm sure it will turn around. Everything goes in cycles. It's just a matter of breaking that cycle. EDITED BECAUSE I FORGOT TO SAY: Good job on the weight loss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ May 29, 2003, 07:41 AM: Message edited by: analyst ] Analyst

May 29th, 2003, 03:50 AM	#8 (permalink)
mommy of twins Diamond Phenster Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: San Antonio Texas Posts: 3,363 Lost Weight: 0lbs Goal Weight: 150	I was on vacation in FLA, but wanted to pop in and say way to go!! And youre right about the site........ lol.........

May 29th, 2003, 04:38 AM	#9 (permalink)
suz1 Gold Phenster Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 706 Lost Weight: 19 Current Weight: 173 Goal Weight: 158	I just wanted to say that I have been around awhile on this site and although it may not seem the same to some of you I just want to add that I come here for encouragement and support and I do get that and then sometimes just posting my topic and typing in what I am having problems with or how happy I am with the weight loss I have accomplished so far gives me the little boost that I need I try to posts and give others encouragement and just wanted to say that it is kinda like when you were in highschool - you will take away from a experience what you are willing to deal with and so I just try to give encouragement and get some for myself now and then and all the rest is just .............not even worth giving my valueable time to I hope you all continue to give support when it is needed and just give the other stuff no responses~ Ok now that I said that and realized that I am posting on this topic but just wanted to explain my feelings about this issue and will not address it again hopefully - ~~ Coincidence is when GOD chooses to remain anonymous ~~

May 29th, 2003, 04:48 AM	#10 (permalink)
KeliKK Silver Phenster Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: dfw Posts: 476 Lost Weight: 91 lbs Current Weight: 145-150	I have been here for 3 yrs now. Its not that I dont care as much as I used to. I just dont have the time anymore. I used to be the starter of tredders and shedders, EVERYDAY. and I dont even comit to that anymore because I know I cant make it here everyday. I dont even post my workout everyday anymore. this new server that I have takes forever to move from page to page on the internet, so I dont spend as much time here. so maybe everyone is just busier, its not that they dont care....

May 29th, 2003, 05:28 AM	#11 (permalink)
BebeMom Platinum Phenster Join Date: May 2002 Location: North Carolina Posts: 1,309 Lost Weight: 38 Current Weight: 165 Goal Weight: 130	Hiya Ginny! You are exactly right, it is not the same here. I do remember you just like it was yesterday. You had that goodlookin hunk of a man as your avatar, from uglypeople.com Right? and it listed you from : In the holler. But then you went away for a while or I think we were posting at different times. I also don't hang out like I used to but still float in just to see what's goin on. I can remember when I first found this site. I lived here, I spent more time here than I did at home (LOL) and I am coming up on my 1 year anniversary as a registered member. When I started feeling out of place I started hanging out in the challenges but it seemed that hardly noone wanted to give support on the main forum but you can definately get it from there. I'm not bad mouthing anyone, it's just not the same and I understand that b/c no 2 people are the same so when someone leaves and a new member joins, it adds something new to the group. I don't think anyone can honestly say that they are in the same place in their life as they were a year ago or 2 years ago. Congrats on the weightloss. I know every bit counts and it is such a struggle on a daily basis that we all do need the encouragement.

May 29th, 2003, 05:38 AM	#12 (permalink)
GINNY Platinum Phenster Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: W. Va Posts: 1,319 Lost Weight: 0lbs Goal Weight: 199.9	Thank you all so much really, I didnt mean to sound like Im pouting but BEBE is right I used to be on the Phen site all the time to it was the place to come when you needed advice, a pat on the back, or a good laugh.Its still a good site dont get me wrong I guess its just different thats all. I just want out of the 200 weight range.

May 29th, 2003, 06:43 AM	#13 (permalink)
health4life I AM WILLING TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO LIVE A HEALTHY SLIMMER LIFE Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: florida Posts: 6,748 Lost Weight: 98 lbs Current Weight: 170 lbs Goal Weight: 150	To be honest in the time that I have been here I can honestly say that yes things are not the same. But I cant say that its much different either I remember fussing fighting and cussing way before I even thought about joining. But I looked passed that. Joined and loved it.Even got in a few myself. But hey life goes on. Hell I have had arguments with my husband but the next minute laughing and joking as if it never happened. Not often but my point is there will be disagreements as well. I dont hold grudges and I sure as heck will let u know when u have rubbed me the wrong way. Take it or leave it. THIS IS ME I will admit I lose my appetite from time to time.More so now than before. But what keeps me here is the same thing that made me want to join. Advice, tips, support and motivation. I have learned alot in my time here about life and the differences in people. It makes you appreciate your life and the things that u have accomplished I tell ya that. THANKFUL as I would like to put it. I am truly blessed. The holidays and weekends are slow. But hey what can we do about it. I try and look at the good in this and try not to concentrate on the negative thoughts as far as the board being slow and people not wanting to be here. Whats good about that I think is more people are moving on,getting out for once in their life and finally feeling good about themselves. If someone wants to leave because the board just aint the same. Let them leave. Thats how I feel about the situation. This board will be here with us or without us. Just look at all the new people that have joined just recently. So I dont believe that because some are gone then the board will fail or become something different. The newbies are more talkative I see and thats a good thing. Lately they have just been jumping in on post and being supportive,helpful and all the above So to all the new folks that just joined KEEP ON KEEPING ON Do your thang No matter whats going on around you. I am here quite a bit and thats only because I'm home most of the time working. My computer stay online for days. So i'm able to pop in and out as I choose to and not all can be here as much. To post post away. For those that come and the board is slow READ up on all those old post. As far as support I give it and I get it. If I miss a topic I try not to feel too bad about it because of how much I post. I know its possible to miss it. I feel that people do get tired of seeing the same few people giving advice all the time. I think we have alot of variety here and it should show. Not just in our opinions and beliefs about life. Now what gets me is when everyone is stuck in one topic and not welcoming people or giving advice. That happens ALOT here. Can I get an AMEN ? Now dont get me wrong I talk ALOT and i'm in alot of post that go on and on and on. But theres one thing no one can say is that i'm not supportive or helpful during those time But what is basicly boils down to is U GET WHAT U GIVE. If u are giving nothing u will get NOTHING I just do what I can do and dont worry about the rest. This is what has been on my mind lately. Not for any one person. Just my thoughts [ May 29, 2003, 11:52 AM: Message edited by: health4life ]

May 29th, 2003, 06:46 AM	#14 (permalink)
slowfoot The fire in your thighs. Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 2,950 Lost Weight: 0lbs	Amen!