[michelle_g]

besides me? i am convinced my husband is trying to sabatoge my weight loss plan!! he purposely brings in goodies into the house just to see if ill bend. stuff that he knows i LOVE but he doesnt even like. then leaves them right where ill see them. he constantly puts down my plan and gets upset when i bring up my weight loss goals. we got into a fight yesterday when he told me i shouldnt be taking "those stupid pills". he says he doesnt want to be with a skinny girl. and i told him id never be skinny. its not even possible with my structure. i just want to be a healthy weight where i can keep up with the boyz. then this morning i couldnt even find my pills! when he left to drop off the boyz at school i found them under his side of the mattress.(his usual hiding spot for everything.lol) im at my witts end with him!!!

[JustCallMeTan]

He just may be afraid that once you get smaller you may not want or look at him in the same way, just asure him that you love him an that your doing this to be healthy and to feel good about yourself, and that he needs to suport you in your goals because you would do the same for him.

[Cmarie123]

Right there with ya! My husband thinks diets are stupid. He is the reason I kept the weight on for a year and half. He kept saying "you look great!" My husband isn't overweight, but he isn't completely healthy either. I think his fears are that if I start dieting and living healthy that he will feel compelled to do the same. He was terrible the first month. He kept referring to everything I cooked as "diet plastic food". HOWEVER, this month has been completely different. I think when he started seeing the physical changes in my appearance he was okay with the diet. Don't get discouraged.

[michelle_g]

well i think i forgot to mention that he is a vendictive *******...lol. ok ok i know...but this is only one of our problems. i picked up the packet last week to file for divorce. i hope i have the courage to go through with it. its just hard to deal with someone so set on making it harder.

[JustCallMeTan]

You know men are big babbies! Just keep your head up. It's going to get better!

[michelle_g]

thanx.... im trying. that is the main reason i searched for an online support group. im glad i found you guys... your the best!

[Leigh_Ann]

I say its never good to threaten with divorce or seperation, but the fact of the matter is, if he is keeping you from losing weight he could essentially be KILLING YOU! I know thats drastic, but you have it in your mind what you NEED to do to be healthy and you are making steps to get there. Think about it, if you stay the size you are now, what will your HEART be like in 15 or 20 years? UNHEALTHY! Tell him you WILL NOT stay with him if he cannot support your goals to LIVE LIFE and ENJOY IT! All people DESERVE that, and I HATE HATE HATE the word deserve, but everyone DOES deserve the right to live their life and enjoy it (without harming others of course), Good luck, and we are here for you!

[michelle_g]

thanx. this is actually not the only problem we have though and the weight thing is only a small part of our problems. the divorce has been a long time coming. for many reasons. but i need to be here and be healthy for myself and my boyz. i know what you mean about the heart. its NOT healthy and thats why i am doing this. i hate that i cant keep up with my boyz. they are so active and i want to be there with them. not on the sidelines watching them.

[Loving Me]

Alot of people have been having that problem lately. I read a post like that yesterday. Your ideal body is YOUR vision. You are doing this for YOU and YOUR health. Stay motivated! No matter what he brings in the house keep envisioning yourself at your ideal weight. FOCUS! and you will be fine we are here to help you. When your husband starts eating something that looks good, grab some water and start pretending you were consuming it too. It may sound funny but I have done it before. LOL!

[shaynsethsmom]

Hey Sweets . i do know where you are coming from .MY husband is the same way in the weight loss area. but
when we have other problems, i just want to curl up and eat ! i finally told him that he was making me fat ! lol.. that was not a good day .. but he has stopped bringing in my fav. foods .. but it sounds to me like you guys have alot more problems , and that it could get ugly when you file for divorce... be strong for your boys . and keep to your plans!!! hide your pills so that he can not find them ... you have to do this for yourself , and your kids.. i have lost 24 pounds, and it is amazing at how much more i do with my kids.. i even tried jump roping!! should have seen that ..lol.. if you need to talk i am here .. lots of love , Ang

[michelle_g]

yup.. thats me too... im an emotional eater. and i recently got out of a long bout of depression. mostly cuz of our problems. to be honest, he is a drug user, and emotional, mental, sexual, physical abuser and a cheater on top of it. he swears its cuz of the drugs and promised to go to treatment but its gone to far for to long. im doing this for me now and he hates it.