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kay4 · June 18th, 2003, 04:18 PM

My marriage of 20 yrs may not have been perfect, but I always considered it good, with 2 awsome kids. As I'm losing weight (63lbs and at my goal!!) my husband steps out on me. I figure we both needed to work on this marriage but he just thinks things can go on like nothing ever happened and I'm am very MAD!! I can't forget about this and he is doing and saying nothing - just thinks life goes on as it was before. We have 2 kids who are very aware of our troubles and we are trying to protect them. I'm so angry and really could use some friends. I feel so alone.

bikinibound · June 19th, 2003, 04:38 AM

Kay4,

Talking out your frustrations is very important. It will releive the vent up emotions. I can't give you advice with your husband, but I do know that the kids can develop emotional problems. Try to get them to talk about their feelings and don't let yourself badmouth your husband in front of them. I have friends who have used their kids as pawns in their divorce and it only ended up hurting the kids.

I will keep you in my prayers and hope for the best for you.

God Bless!

Slave2Food · June 25th, 2003, 10:53 AM

I know this is late, but it sounds like you could use a hug.

((((((((KAY4)))))))

Laura B · June 27th, 2003, 04:02 AM

You know, sometimes therapy helps. It feels good to talk to someone who can help sort out your feelings and help you set priorities. My marriage isn't the best in the world either, but I am staying together for my children. That is my choice, right or wrong. I went to therapy and that was my decision. You don't have to go forever, just long enough to work out the most pressing feelings.

Good luck, and make sure you don't eat over this!!

Bluedaisy · July 5th, 2003, 06:11 PM

My marriage has had really really really difficult times, he never cheated, but we had some major strife. One day, I decided to tell my husband that if things didn't change that I would leave him. He looked at me and he knew that I was serious, he saw the determination in me. After we calmed down, we really tried to listen to each other. It was amazing how we sat down and worked out our differences. There are topics that we know to stay away from in case of a fight and there are times when we agree to disagree. It sounds to me like you guys need to get a way from the kids for a while and hash things out. But remember, never threaten to leave unless you are willing to actually do it.

Tracy Suzanne · July 13th, 2003, 04:23 AM

My heart aches for you. Just take it one single day, sometimes one minute at a time.

I didn't stay when it happened to me but I don't have kids and every situation is different. Sometimes couples learn from mistakes and grow stronger. One thing is sure YOU are growing stronger.

Email if you need a bud: TracySuzanne2003@yahoo.com

Life breaks us all. Some of us get stronger in the broken places. ---Ernest Hemingway

June 19th, 2003, 04:38 AM	#2 (permalink)
bikinibound Bronze Phenster Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Dallas Posts: 11 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 136 Goal Weight: 120	Kay4, Talking out your frustrations is very important. It will releive the vent up emotions. I can't give you advice with your husband, but I do know that the kids can develop emotional problems. Try to get them to talk about their feelings and don't let yourself badmouth your husband in front of them. I have friends who have used their kids as pawns in their divorce and it only ended up hurting the kids. I will keep you in my prayers and hope for the best for you. God Bless! SW - 147 CW - 136 08/04/03 GW - 120

June 25th, 2003, 10:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
Slave2Food Silver Phenster Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Houston, Texas Posts: 169 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 176 Goal Weight: 140	I know this is late, but it sounds like you could use a hug. ((((((((KAY4))))))) June 2003 SW 162 Sept 2003 153 (Meridia) Dec 2003 145 (weight watchers) Feb 2004 137 (WW/Phen weekends) Mar 2004 135 (WW/Phen weekends) May 15, 2004 Was my wedding day. I weighed 133 pounds of pure muscle. All of the hard work (30 sessions with a personal trainer) paid off when I wore a thong on my honeymoon. I came back from my honeymoon and things were good. I was happy. Then, on July 4th I was in an ATV accident. After 3 months of physical therapy I went back to work. I was depressed. I saw the doctor for medication and therapy. By the grace of God I survived the depression and endured through the pain. Yes, I could have killed my husband and myself, but I didn't. I'm still here and... I want a DO-OVER!!! September 2006 176

June 27th, 2003, 04:02 AM	#4 (permalink)
Laura B Silver Phenster Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Oregon Posts: 143 Lost Weight: 13 Current Weight: 123 Goal Weight: 110-115	You know, sometimes therapy helps. It feels good to talk to someone who can help sort out your feelings and help you set priorities. My marriage isn't the best in the world either, but I am staying together for my children. That is my choice, right or wrong. I went to therapy and that was my decision. You don't have to go forever, just long enough to work out the most pressing feelings. Good luck, and make sure you don't eat over this!! Laura 5'1" SW 137 CW 123 (according to my scale 7-26-03) Aiming for 110-115 See my children and me at: http://groups.msn.com/Food4thought/laurab.msnw?Page=1

July 5th, 2003, 06:11 PM	#5 (permalink)
Bluedaisy Phen Newbie Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Mississippi Posts: 9 Lost Weight: 5 pounds Current Weight: 210 Goal Weight: 145	My marriage has had really really really difficult times, he never cheated, but we had some major strife. One day, I decided to tell my husband that if things didn't change that I would leave him. He looked at me and he knew that I was serious, he saw the determination in me. After we calmed down, we really tried to listen to each other. It was amazing how we sat down and worked out our differences. There are topics that we know to stay away from in case of a fight and there are times when we agree to disagree. It sounds to me like you guys need to get a way from the kids for a while and hash things out. But remember, never threaten to leave unless you are willing to actually do it. BLUEDAISY

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June 18th, 2003, 04:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
kay4 Bronze Phenster Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: florida Posts: 12 Lost Weight: 10lbs Current Weight: 183 Goal Weight: 130	My marriage of 20 yrs may not have been perfect, but I always considered it good, with 2 awsome kids. As I'm losing weight (63lbs and at my goal!!) my husband steps out on me. I figure we both needed to work on this marriage but he just thinks things can go on like nothing ever happened and I'm am very MAD!! I can't forget about this and he is doing and saying nothing - just thinks life goes on as it was before. We have 2 kids who are very aware of our troubles and we are trying to protect them. I'm so angry and really could use some friends. I feel so alone.

July 13th, 2003, 04:23 AM	#6 (permalink)
Tracy Suzanne Bronze Phenster Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 54 Lost Weight: 20 Current Weight: 180 Goal Weight: 120	My heart aches for you. Just take it one single day, sometimes one minute at a time. I didn't stay when it happened to me but I don't have kids and every situation is different. Sometimes couples learn from mistakes and grow stronger. One thing is sure YOU are growing stronger. Email if you need a bud: TracySuzanne2003@yahoo.com Life breaks us all. Some of us get stronger in the broken places. ---Ernest Hemingway