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[nikemama]

I was sitting at the table with my new husband working a puzzle the other night and his cell rang. He rejected the call but listen when they left a message. It was a womans voice and he hung up before the rest of the message. After asking him repeatly who called he finally tells me it was his X-Girlfriend. I asked him to let me call her but he wouldn't. So I told him that if he didn't I would send her a message on her MYSPACE page. Which I did. He wanted to not call her back and hope she gets the message, or maybe call her when I am not around. Neither satisfies my need to tell her his is married and she needs to find new friends.

She claims (in her reply to my message) that they are old friends and that she just likes to keep in touch with her "friend." This bugs the Crap out of me. They lived together after his divorce they have no children or property to deal with. Am I over reacting? Is their some need I don't see for the two of them to keep in touch.

[tazgirl31]

I was sitting at the table with my new husband working a puzzle the other night and his cell rang. He rejected the call but listen when they left a message. It was a womans voice and he hung up before the rest of the message. After asking him repeatly who called he finally tells me it was his X-Girlfriend. I asked him to let me call her but he wouldn't. So I told him that if he didn't I would send her a message on her MYSPACE page. Which I did. He wanted to not call her back and hope she gets the message, or maybe call her when I am not around. Neither satisfies my need to tell her his is married and she needs to find new friends.

She claims (in her reply to my message) that they are old friends and that she just likes to keep in touch with her "friend." This bugs the Crap out of me. They lived together after his divorce they have no children or property to deal with. Am I over reacting? Is their some need I don't see for the two of them to keep in touch.


Wow NOOO I dont think your over reacting at all!!! I no I would be the same way if my hubby was keeping in touch with one of his ex's I mean my hubby has 2 daughters with his ex wife and yet he still dont keep in touch with her or even talk to her....I dont see the point in your hubby and his ex keeping in contact with one another...I mean they were only dating and like you said they dont own anything togather and have no children togather.....I would just ask your hubby how it would make him feel if you would be in touch with one of your ex's and what he would do if one of your ex would call you? see how he feels about that....Just talk to him and tell him how this makes yo feel....Hes a MARRIED man now and needs to leave the ex in the past....
Good Luck!!!!!!

[MstVivian]

This is tough for me because we do live an alternative lifestyle from most conventional marriages. But as far as exgirlfriends no he has no contact with them or his exwife for that matter. They had no kids no ties. But my hubby does have a few female friedns that call and they text, but their husbands are aware and it is an open thing. I know my choosen life style might not win brownie points from many, but it is what we have choosen and it works for us. That being siad- if there is every a person I don't feel comfortable with then he does not speak to that person, and I show him the same respect. I do speak to my exboyfriend but I cleared it with hubby 1st then spoke to him when he contacted me on MySpace. I think respect is key in a marriage and he needs to respect your feelings and not have contact with her if it bothers you. If you told him to not contact her then he should respect your wish. And as far her- B needs to stay out of your marriage! She should be enough of a woman to respect your marriage and be done with him. He has moved on a so should she.

[slimmersuzi]

I would HATE it if my husband was keeping in touch with ex-girlfriends too. I think it's very unnatural.

Some people watch too many soap operas and forget that it isn't reality. Those people have affairs with each others husbands, trade husbands, trade them back and become best buds. But that isn't real life.

Either, your husband is very immature and is hiding the fact that he wants to keep that door open, or he just doesn't like confrontation. She on the other hand should back off. But is it really worth the effort to stress over it? She might be evil and maybe I watch too much lifetime tv, but I worry about retaliation and fatal like attractions.

Suzi

[nikemama]

It is the Confrontation. He doesn't want to hurt anyones feelings. My point on that is and I told him too, Who's feelings are more importand the girl he left or the one he married.

I ended up messagiing with her a few times during the day I was as nice as I could be getting a little more heated each time. In the end I was rude and she hasn't sent a reply back.

[tazgirl31]

It is the Confrontation. He doesn't want to hurt anyones feelings. My point on that is and I told him too, Who's feelings are more importand the girl he left or the one he married.

I ended up messagiing with her a few times during the day I was as nice as I could be getting a little more heated each time. In the end I was rude and she hasn't sent a reply back.

Well good for you!! You can only be nice so long and then if she doesnt get the picture then its her own problem....She needs to just leave the past in the past and leave your man alone!!!
And I agree with you Your hubby needs and should worry about your feelings and not some other girls!!! You are the most important one here and your feelings are the one that counts!!!! I hope she will leave you and him alone now and you can be happy and not have to worry about it no more!!!!!

[Glenna M]

There is just something wrong with a woman who won't leave an ex alone that has recently been married! I don't think you are going to be able to stop her from contacting him, he is gonna have to grow some balls and do it himself! Tell him that is hurting your feelings more because of the fact that he doesn't want to hurt hers! Neither of them are showing any consideration for you at all.