[justkeepswimming13]

I am not a parent yet (and hope not to be ANY time soon) but I work with kids everyday and I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I think the most important thing you can do is be consistant with the way you deal with a child misbehaving (or crying or throwing a temper tantrum). I see so many parents where the mom ignores the situation and lets the child have a few minutes to cool down (all they want is attention anyway, when you dont give it to them they always stop) and then the dad (or grandma or grandpa or whoever) does something completely different with the situation and either yells at them or babies them. Kids know exactly how to manipulate the situation. I think you should just talk to your dad about it and let him know how you are feeling. You have a certain parenting style and your parents need to respect that as well as enforce it when they are with your kids. I think you have every reason to be upset about it.

I actually have a great story on BAD PARENTING. So, I work as a lifeguard at a private family pool and I see sooooooo many parents who just really **** at being parents lol (i know i shouldnt judge because i don't know what is like... but it gets rediculous sometimes). Anyways, this one day this little boy Alec kept running around the pool. I gave him a warning and told him not to run, then like 5 minutes later he ran again. Then I gave him another warning and told him if he runs one more time he is going on time out. So then he ran AGAIN. I get him out of the pool and have him sit by himself in a lounge chair for 7 minutes. Within that 7 minutes (i do one minute for however old they are, so he was 7 y/o so he got 7 minute time out), his mom buys him candy and gives it to him (which was not in a designated "eating zone" either), gives him a hug, and then says "oh, it's been 5 minutes, that's close enough, you can go get back in the pool" AND THEN he actually runs to get in the pool! I could not even believe it. I was speechless. I went up to the mom and said that I would really like it if she would enforce the rules of the pool to Alec and remind him that he should not run or jump on top of people (he loves to jump on other kids heads) and then she goes "Well, isn't that your job?" HAHAHA I couldnt even believe it. I laugh now, but I remember being so amazingly upset that day I just wanted to cry because of her. I actually feel bad for the mom because her kids walk all over her and she has no control over them at all.... they are going to end up being so messed up.

ANYWAYS that was a longer story then I thought lol but I do think you should talk to your dad, or else your going to keep it all bottled up inside and then just like blow up on him one day right? Or you will take it out of food.... which is just all bad lol.