[shirleyb]

Maybe he thinks he is being cruel to be kind, but sometimes that doesn't work. The reverse can happen.
1. Do it for yourself. Thats one of the biggest things I have learnt. If you don't the rollercoaster will start all over again.
I have been overweight all my life.
The first comments like many were :you would be so pretty if you lost that excess weight"
Which made me "I Think" put more on.
Then it was can't you be like your sisters?
It wasn't until now that I am 40+ that I have decided that I am going to take control, bit sad hey at my age, but anyway thats whats doing it for me. My husband has also been on phen and we have been doing it together which is good. So the whole houses eating habits have changed to healthier eating.
Good Luck on your weight loss...