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MD2004 · March 31st, 2003, 12:04 PM

Hi Mer -
My .02 - RED FLAG #1 you said that he and his mother want you there to 'help him stay clean'. That is not a very good reason - and a bad way to start a codependent relationship. Remember you have two beautiful daughters and you owe it to them to think this through - I feel so strongly about you not moving in that I am nearly in tears. Starting to see him again is great moving in with him not so great- Serioulsy you are a knock out - your girls are to die for - and you have much more potential then 'taking care' of someone. Please think this through - if he is going to stay clean for the rest of his life then he needs to do the majority of the work on his own for himself - not because you are going to be there to check up on him. I hope I am not being too harsh but as you can see - my opinion is to stay where you are being a great mother to your two precious girls - you are doing what you need to do to make a better life for them. OK - I will shut up now. Let us know what you decide - will be thinking about you.

[ March 31, 2003, 05:05 PM: Message edited by: MD2004 ]

March 31st, 2003, 12:04 PM	#8 (permalink)
MD2004 Silver Phenster Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 378 Lost Weight: 0lbs Current Weight: 189 Goal Weight: 120	Hi Mer - My .02 - RED FLAG #1 you said that he and his mother want you there to 'help him stay clean'. That is not a very good reason - and a bad way to start a codependent relationship. Remember you have two beautiful daughters and you owe it to them to think this through - I feel so strongly about you not moving in that I am nearly in tears. Starting to see him again is great moving in with him not so great- Serioulsy you are a knock out - your girls are to die for - and you have much more potential then 'taking care' of someone. Please think this through - if he is going to stay clean for the rest of his life then he needs to do the majority of the work on his own for himself - not because you are going to be there to check up on him. I hope I am not being too harsh but as you can see - my opinion is to stay where you are being a great mother to your two precious girls - you are doing what you need to do to make a better life for them. OK - I will shut up now. Let us know what you decide - will be thinking about you. [ March 31, 2003, 05:05 PM: Message edited by: MD2004 ] Steph SW01-07-2003): 174 CW06-26-2003): 174.5 GW: 120 "Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted." - Albert Einstein (1879-1955)