Been on all night checking out various posts.
I have been thin and I am now fat. Believe me, THIN is better and people most definetly treat you better when you are thin. It stinks, but that's the way it is. I have had this confirmed by many other heavy people. They look at you as a weak person who is lazy (without realizing that you may have gone through so much stress and bad times that caused you to overeat in the first place) Once the weight is on, it's tough to take off. People just ASSUME you don't even try to help yourself. The bigger I am, the more invisible I am to men. And I used to turn heads like crazy when thinner.
imskenwoobie (hope I remembered to spell that one right (lol) I applaud you for your confidence and self esteem. But honey, you are in the minority. You are lucky to have found a man who loves you no matter how much you weigh. VERY lucky. And also, black men don't mind their women heavier, but those white boys sure do! PLEASE don't get offended by the statement or take it that I am mean this as a racial stereotype, but after living 47 years I have definitely observed this to be a fact.
Janet
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