Most of the time I dread going to see the whole family for the holidays too. I hear the same kinds of things you do when I go...hair, weight, choices in men, etc. So, last year I just didn't go. I spent it with my kids, my mom and step dad only. I didn't feel wrong or guilty. You can't choose your family...but if you could there would be some I'd choose not to be related to. If your friends treated you that way you wouldn't be friends with them anymore would you? Don't worry about what anyone else thinks....if you don't want to go then don't and don't feel guilty about it. If you feel you must go then stand your ground. You may be the baby but you are 32 years old and let them know that. (I am 31 by the way.)I know it's easier said then done but try not to turn to food when you're stressed during the holidays. I gained a lot of weight over winter 2000/2001 and that's why I'm on phen now. But I've lost a total of 28 lbs. Some of it I lost before I started phen but most of it is from taking phen. Part of the reason I believe I was overeating was because I stopped smoking in January. Some people really fear weight gain if they stop smoking so they don't stop. But I didn't let that get in my way. I am smoke free and the thinnest I've been in 4 yrs. If I keep it up I'll soon be thinner than I was in high school. I know this is becoming long...but don't worry yourself over what your family thinks. I know others who dread going to their families too. But it's ok if you just decide not to go. Sometimes it's best to distance ourselves from people who make us feel that way. If you go make the best of it and let me know what happens.
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