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Sandye · August 25th, 2002, 12:58 AM

Okay ... I said I would leave it alone ... but I can't. I will respond for the clarification of others who may be observing the progression of this post.

The reason I construed your statement as negative (although it should be obvious) is that I felt you were kicking me while I was down and attempting to invalidate the pain that my family was going through simply because you can not relate to it. Then you put some prayer on it - as if closing with veiled religious rhetoric would disguise the underlying theme of your response. That is the ultimate insult.

If I were to adopt your way of thinking - that if "these people" (what's up with that terminology?!?!? - do you realize how that sounds?) had not been doing wrong in the first place, they would not have these issues to deal with - I would be adopting a "blame the victim" philosophy which is a skewed and unenlightened way of looking at things. I am not judging ... neither is anyone else who responded to my post. I am doing what everyone does - watching the news and drawing conclusions based on my point of reference - which just happens to be different than yours. Not better, not worse, not right, not wrong - just different. I don't expect you to understand, identify, or care about how difficult this was for us.

I am aware (painfully, sometimes) that I am in the minority in many areas of my life, but that does not make my opinion any less valid. I utilize this forum for the same purpose everyone else does - to express what is going on in my life and get it off my chest.

The reason I chose to post in the "solidarity" forum rather than the main one is because this is usually the place where compassion is shown. My heart was broken and I really needed a little of that. I am grateful for the people who found it in their hearts to give that to me.

Rather than using a quote from a fictional, dim-witted character, I will leave you with a quote from someone real. "Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the Lord pondereth the hearts." God Proverbs 21:2

August 25th, 2002, 12:58 AM	#8 (permalink)
Sandye Voice of Wisdom Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,305 Lost Weight: 20 Current Weight: 131 Goal Weight: 125	Okay ... I said I would leave it alone ... but I can't. I will respond for the clarification of others who may be observing the progression of this post. The reason I construed your statement as negative (although it should be obvious) is that I felt you were kicking me while I was down and attempting to invalidate the pain that my family was going through simply because you can not relate to it. Then you put some prayer on it - as if closing with veiled religious rhetoric would disguise the underlying theme of your response. That is the ultimate insult. If I were to adopt your way of thinking - that if "these people" (what's up with that terminology?!?!? - do you realize how that sounds?) had not been doing wrong in the first place, they would not have these issues to deal with - I would be adopting a "blame the victim" philosophy which is a skewed and unenlightened way of looking at things. I am not judging ... neither is anyone else who responded to my post. I am doing what everyone does - watching the news and drawing conclusions based on my point of reference - which just happens to be different than yours. Not better, not worse, not right, not wrong - just different. I don't expect you to understand, identify, or care about how difficult this was for us. I am aware (painfully, sometimes) that I am in the minority in many areas of my life, but that does not make my opinion any less valid. I utilize this forum for the same purpose everyone else does - to express what is going on in my life and get it off my chest. The reason I chose to post in the "solidarity" forum rather than the main one is because this is usually the place where compassion is shown. My heart was broken and I really needed a little of that. I am grateful for the people who found it in their hearts to give that to me. Rather than using a quote from a fictional, dim-witted character, I will leave you with a quote from someone real. "Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the Lord pondereth the hearts." God Proverbs 21:2 All you can do is the best you can do ... but the best you can do is enough.